• Rooty@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Two people trapped in an unhappy marriage will absolutely not give the best possible upbringing to a child.

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      1 year ago

      Right, but you want children to learn that they stick to their duties. Not the best for the child but the best for society and if it is a good society, the best for the child.

      People are only trapped if they cannot change. What’s the bigger trap, that you have to find people who suit you or that you can find common ground with everybody?

      • SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        1 year ago

        No, kids should be taught that things aren’t set in stone

        We shouldn’t follow duties if they’re not working out for anybody. We shouldn’t keep doing things as we always have when that doesn’t work anymore, or one can go about it in a better way. One should embrace change, and not be scared of it.

        In addition, people can change for the worse (or reveal their true nature), and not want to get better. My parents aren’t good people, and I refuse to follow any “but it’s your duty and they are your parents!!” that society and others try to press onto me. And neither will I bother with following society’s standard for marriage and monogamy, and instead do what is best for me in my life.

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          1 year ago

          I agree. I just think that marriage can also be an opportunity to change for the better, most of the times when both are ready for change.

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            1 year ago

            Marriage was for political means first and foremost. Then it was romanticized.

            If you need mariage for an opportunity to change for the better, then you shouldn’t be the person to get married in the first place.