• @Sotuanduso@lemm.ee
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    34 months ago

    Your mileage may vary. Yeah, there are a lot of bad things in life, but that doesn’t mean life as a whole is bad. You don’t get to make that call when there are so many people who enjoy life. Not even if you define life’s pleasures as merely relief from life’s needs and strains.

    To be clear, I’m not saying you should be having kids. You’re fully within your rights to judge the circumstances of your own life and where your kid would end up to decide if it’s right or wrong. Obviously it’d be wrong to have a kid in the freezing arctic with no hope of escape or survival for more than a few years. But you can’t say having kids is unequivocally wrong for everyone in every circumstance.

    And if you truly believe life is wholly bad, that might be a symptom of depression.

    • Oh, I think it absolutely is a sign of depression.

      Life is hard, but I enjoy the vast majority of my time. Here’s my schedule:

      1. Get up to the sun shining most days, enjoy a breakfast with minimal effort, and dress in clothes I didn’t have to make
      2. Go to work in a temperature controlled environment with modern conveniences
      3. Get home, watch shows and play games while machines clean my clothes and dishes
      4. Go to sleep after listening to some truly great content on a modern marvel that fits in my pocket

      Or I could tell it another way:

      1. Get up late because my phone kept me up at night, and eat crap cereal because that’s all I have time for
      2. Work in a soulless env with people I don’t like, taking breaks only to piss
      3. Microwave dinner because I’m too exhausted for anything else, and waste time on shows and gacha games because that’s all I have the energy for
      4. Doomscroll on my phone because I went to put off doing it all over again as long as possible

      Most of life is about perspective. It turns out that you’ll find whatever you’re looking for, whether that’s joy or misery. If you can’t find the good, you’re probably depressed and should seek help.