Denial (“I feel comfortable being addressed and seen as a guy, so I can’t be enby”)
Anger (“Why do people always ignore the ‘it’ in ‘it/he’?”)
Bargaining (“I just care a lot about respecting pronouns, so that’s why I get upset. I’m just doing this to add to enby visibility, because I don’t really mind.”)
Depression (“I suppose people just don’t like referring to humans with pronouns normay used for objects, that’s just how it is”)
Acceptance (“Okay I definitely feel good about being called ‘it’, so I’m probably agender”)
Bargaining again (“Maybe I’m some in-between? Not really cis, but not really enby either?”) Proceeds to cycle between Denial, Bargaining, Acceptance and Bargaining again, with Anger and Depression playing a constant tug-of-war as backdrop
Insert meme of mother yelling at her kid “Why can’t you just be normal”, but it’s me yelling at my Identity “Why can’t you just be simple”
Also, once you realize you’re an enby you kinda live in several of these stages at once.
Denial (“I feel comfortable being addressed and seen as a guy, so I can’t be enby”)
Anger (“Why do people always ignore the ‘it’ in ‘it/he’?”)
Bargaining (“I just care a lot about respecting pronouns, so that’s why I get upset. I’m just doing this to add to enby visibility, because I don’t really mind.”)
Depression (“I suppose people just don’t like referring to humans with pronouns normay used for objects, that’s just how it is”)
Acceptance (“Okay I definitely feel good about being called ‘it’, so I’m probably agender”)
Bargaining again (“Maybe I’m some in-between? Not really cis, but not really enby either?”)
Proceeds to cycle between Denial, Bargaining, Acceptance and Bargaining again, with Anger and Depression playing a constant tug-of-war as backdrop
Insert meme of mother yelling at her kid “Why can’t you just be normal”, but it’s me yelling at my Identity “Why can’t you just be simple”