• DarkCloud@lemmy.world
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    22 hours ago

    Where’s the line, like initial attraction is kind of - by definition always limited in it’s understanding of “the other”… Whether that’s a woman finding a fatherly figure attractive, or a gay guy finding a bear attractive, or someone finding an Irish accent hot…

    They’re all empty slates we project onto, it’s only later that we learn about the human beyond those characteristics. Then we find out they’re kind of a horrible person, and that’s the end of that.

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      16 hours ago

      as a gay guy, it definitely starts off with “the other person is a human with needs” [commonly with the subtext “and i hope one of those needs is to fuck me”]