I’ve tried putting it under the little spoons pillow, but it always gets weird pins and needles numb and hurts by morning. Thanks!

  • chrisbtoo@lemmy.ca
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    16 days ago

    I bend my arm and put my hand under my face, thereby converting it into shoulder pain.

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    15 days ago

    Wait until she goes to sleep. Then get up to fix your arm, get chores done, etc, and go to bed at a more normal time

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    You don’t actually spoon the whole way, just up to the waist, leaving a bit of a gap between your chest and partner’s shoulders.

    Upper arm goes round partner as normal, lower arm rests elbow on mattress, forearm vertical across their back, hand holds their upper shoulder.

    Plenty of contact still, but your arm doesn’t die, you don’t get their hair tickling your face all night and you get to use your own pillow.

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      This would work if my bed were no lt an unconscious battle field for space; if no-man’s-land exists it will be eagerly taken up, any inch given is another inch towards my partners unconscious goal of making me fall off my side of the bed. Either that or they want to be close to me. But a good thought :P

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    There’s special pillows designed for this that have a little passthrough for your arm and a small amount of sturdy material so your arm doesn’t get crushed.

    Called couples pillows or or cuddle pillows or something like that. I have wanted one for some time.

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    Took me a while to figure out too! Turns out, it’s easier for the smaller person to be a big spoon.

    If you’re larger than your partner, lay lower in the bed compared to your partner. Your face should be at their back. Pull that cushion down with you to help your neck. If they curl up a little, your arm can bend a bit forwards as it ends up at their legs, and it won’t fall asleep at all.

    Happy napping! 😉

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    15 days ago

    I don’t. When it’s time to sleep, we kiss goodnight and face away from each other. Just works better for both of us.

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    My ribcage rests on a memory foam pillow. My head rests on a buckwheat pillow. My arm goes in the gap between the two pillows. The buckwheat pillow is easily remoldable so my arm can go underneath and find a good angle without making my head feel unstable.