You can’t convince anyone by explaining the facts. Psychologist Adam MASTROIANNI wrote an insightful and entertaining piece about why that’s the case.

We can’t de-convert our family and friends, just like they can’t re-convert us. Missionary work is a waste of time, except for the experience of the missionary. And hypocrisy in leaders is what will destroy the Church.

Our deeply-held beliefs, in the castle’s keep (in the author’s analogy) remind me of this XKCD: https://xkcd.com/2347/ represented by the “random package” near the bottom.