Was having this conversation with some new friends earlier and was curious. When did you guys figure out your sexuality/identity or whatever? Was there a person that helped you or a particular moment or event?

  • Moneymunkie@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    Theres a part of me that just wants to put X down just so I can say that its because I’m extreme yeahhhhhhhh!

    God though are you like my clone or something, cus I also found myself vibing with polyamory for similar reasons. Like I’ve definitely struggled with feeling for more than one person and how crushing it can be when you’re worrying about being unfaithful or selfish when you’re with somebody who doesn’t feel similar. Just think it would be awesome if my partner or partners along with myself can feel safe and free to explore these feelings without worrying, I’d want them to feel happy and if another person would add to that for them then even better! Plus its less pressure on myself to meet their emotional needs since I can struggle with my own brain gremlins at times and I might not be able to fully help, even though I would really want to.

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      1 year ago

      Hell yea compersion rules and yes, you’re right, no one can be absolutely everything for someone else and it’s kinda of rude to put that pressure on them. No shade towards monoamorous individuals if that’s what works for you, that’s super cool and I wish you the best but please recognize that you have friends and family and rely on and help others in many diverse ways!

      Well I dunno, a lot of my gender is explicitly having fun with and messing with people’s ideas about the world. Like I got a fairly niche bottom surgery done mostly because I thought it would be fun to be able to say “yes” if anyone ever asked me what’s in my pants (and also because bonus parts, why not)

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        1 year ago

        Oh for sure, monogamy is perfectly valid too! I wouldn’t be going around proclaiming poly is somehow superior since different ways of being fit differently for different people and thats ok!

        Gosh I dunno I could go as far as surgery though, like at most getting maybe more of a feminine figure or a bit of booba as I’m a bit squeamish at the idea of surgery, but then again thats maybe just cus I just hesitate a lot and overthink things so maybe that will change haha