So I’m real confused at why people hate big polyamorous relationships? Like it confuses me because isn’t the basis of being poly. Loving others and loving multiple people. Giving dedication to multiple people? Which it never specified on what type of group or how big of a group. So where does the hate of big polys come from?

If anyone can explain this please. Since this is not the first time I’ve got hate for my poly. Which actually normally I ether instantly get banned from places for asking questions or I get like 100s of downvotes. Though everyone just keeps their mouths shut and I’ve never really asked before but it just doesn’t make sense. Why is adding people to a poly to protect and love them. To give them the best life possible. With no abuse and no manipulation. To give others the happiness it’s hard for me to feel. A bad thing like why does the size of the poly or how we’re together make any difference. It’s just love isn’t it? Also it’s completely legal? So where is the issue.

Now I’ve heard some people jokingly call it a sex cult but I don’t believe it’d logically be that. Also for me it has nothing to do with the number of people, their sexualities, gender. All that matters to me is their personality and how I can help them grow into who they want to become. Which this probably gonna sound cheesy but it’s like watching a caterpillar transform into a butterfly. The beauty that comes from their happiness when they succeed or become who they want to be is my favourite part. Below is the definition of Polyamory and it never specifies anything about size or how it works unless it’s consensual and morally correct. So if this is a stereotype why don’t we burn that shit and just love!

Which I thought to add people can have different size polys or work differently yk and if you take my approach you’ll know when you get enough people or some can just give infinite love out.

  • @DaddysLittleSlut@lemmy.worldOP
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    I don’t understand how I’m not making connections with them as I do stuff with everyone. Though I was specifically asking if there’s any basic ones I forget. Like Puppy, Kit, Flower. Ones like those which I’ve used already. I don’t mind creating names from interest but I thought it worth checking. Though I don’t understand what you mean by not making connections with them. I mean if you’re talking about having literal notes on each one of them in my phone. Their dislikes, likes, hobbies, and more. Even their blood type, childhood and more. Then taking them on crazy dates and or cuddling them at home watching movies they like or the fact I make crazy and extraordinary proposals even though they joined into the marriage technically. Then helping them overcome fears mainly with family. Though trust me I wish I could do more. So if that’s not creating connections I don’t know what is. Also what is too much partners like personally I can give out so much love.

    Then I should also add I give myself to them as a full on slave. They only ask me to maybe feed them strawberries covered in chocolate while at their knees. I will do it in a heart beat. Anything they ask me I’ll do. I live and die for servitude.

      • @DaddysLittleSlut@lemmy.worldOP
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        12 months ago

        Tbh the names I’ve always found online but I give them to specific ppl for specific reasons. Though for bragging, I’ve never had any intent to brag rather the reason I post things is there for questions or to break social norms like why do people put crazy standards as long as they don’t abuse you. Though yeah I’ve read through a link someone tagged of a sex cult and it didn’t seem anything like the pin points. Though I will admit I own two cults of my own I created one similar to the creed games and the second a very very old type of cult where it is a sex cult but to worship Dionysus and I kinda had to drag my original husband into it so it’d be created. Then I was able to wear my collar in certain places that normally wouldn’t allow it.