I think my parents are OK but I don’t want to take any big risks. I’m still a minor

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    To any parents that might read this: this is why you need to be clear that you would accept them, and be explicit. “I would still accept you and love you if you were gay or trans or queer”

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      Thing is, my father was clear that he would be accepting. Not Sir eif I can trust that tho. My mum not so much

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        I guess what I mean to say then is that a parent should do everything they can to demonstrate that their child could really trust them in this. I totally get what you mean though, parents can often say one thing not actually expecting it to happen and then when it does get all huffy.

        To clarify further: many probably do think they’ve done this, but don’t know that their child still feels like you do, OP. I would imagine because their actions and behaviors that you’ve observed doesn’t align with his statements?

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          Never noticed any actions. Hell they got me a pen with pride colors on it. Just worried because eteh whole family supports the local Christian party. Not that alternatives are any better

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            By local “Christian party” do you mean like the German Christian Democratic Union or are you referring to the American GOP?

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                this party?

                Here’s a line from their article:

                “Factions within the Nationalist party do not tolerate LGBT rights statutes; despite this, the majority of its parliamentary group voted in favour of gay marriage in 2017. The party has become very diverse in the last few years. The party calls itself a mosaic of people and ideologies. The party recruited a non-binary member, Mark Josef Rapa, for their pro-LGBT group, FOIPN, and a transgender member, Freddie Gerada, for their youth group, Team Start. Apart from that, there is a growing number of LGBT and openly pro-choice people in the party.”

                Are you used to talking politics with your parents at all? It looks like the party they support has tried to make room for non binary and trans people in its tent so maybe you could try to sus out what faction they belong to?

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                    I saw your other post about religion which has got me thinking they are probably not happy with their party’s move to the center over the last decade.

                    But hey, it could be a starting point.

                    There’s a YouTuber, focused on the United States, But he also talks social issues and has in the past brought up gender and sexuality. His goal is to reach conservatives and help progressive people do the same. I often find watching him makes me feel better and hopeful about being able to change minds.

                    Beau of the Fifth Column