Hi sissies! I’m a 31yo enby-presenting bi bottom in a town with no gay bars, nightclubs, BDSM events, or regularly-scheduled LGBT groups/meetings. It’s really churchy, but nobody has punched me in the face for crossdressing yet, so it’s tolerant enough by my standards.

In a place like this, how do you find cuties to do gay sex things with? I’m interested in master/slave dynamics, bondage, impact play, anal, cnc, pretty much anything. I just don’t like old bears. Which is a problem because the only bros who seem to be into me are in their 60s, and they don’t even try to look good, they’re pudgy slobs. How do you hack it out in the country?

  • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    2·
    5 months ago

    People go to these meetings just to play pool, and they act like the sex drive has been sucked out of them by some kind of alien parasite.

    The point of a munch is to be a completely non-sexually, non-kink, social event. They’re also used by more underground groups to vet members and this is a fairly normal experience.

    Tops act like bottoms, bottoms act like tops, everyone either has kids or is some kind of little.

    If you’re looking for a high protocol master/slave situation, you’re not going to find it organically in a local scene. It honestly sounds a bit more like your attitude here might be stopping you from possibly getting to know people because this comes off as very aloof and judgemental. Not everyone fits nearly into a box, as I’m sure you can attest to.

    I get you on the 🐻 though, they aren’t for me either. I just don’t like hairy men mostly 🤷

    • lazyneet@programming.devOP
      3·
      5 months ago

      You don’t need to patronizingly explain what a munch is. I’ve observed these people over several months, and 4/5 of them are nowhere near hardcore kinksters. I don’t know where you’re from, but around here the general culture is already very soft and removed from the scene. These people want to feel no pain.