• Jerkface@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Very plausible. Sometimes this happens to people who grow up with family who have cluster b personality disorders. It’s like they’re conditioned to be good partners to people who have it. Ask me how I know.

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        5 months ago

        Mother had BPD, possibly ASPD, brother had NPD. I have a tendency to attract people who suffered intense childhood trauma.

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          5 months ago

          I’m picturing you going on a first date and just casually asking something like “So, childhood abuse yes or no?”

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            5 months ago

            Like another comment said, sometimes you can just sense it, but often enough they will just tell me. I have heard so many stories, frequently about sexual assault by a family member, from someone I had just met or barely knew.

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              5 months ago

              I have a similar thing. People just open up to me, but my parents aren’t abusive. The worst punishment they gave us was to write a research paper on why what we had done was wrong.