Mine? As miserable as ever. My little bro wanted to go to a little comic con thing, is just not my vibe, felt surrounded by people in weird costumes is just… Thankfully I was there for like half an hour.
You got to spend some time with your brother. He’ll remember that.
Dude I’m like double his age. He’s a teenager and I’m not, that’s it.
I’m 40, my siblings are 19 and 23 and 41. They all appreciate hanging out.
I don’t tbh. I have my own problems
Hey man, I hope you grip those problems by the nuts and tell them to f— off.
Good luck to you, bud. 🥊❤️
Ok
Aw. Well I tried.
? I don’t get it
Then why half ass it in the first place? If you’re double his age then I would expect you to have enough life experience to fake your enthusiasm, or to have enough perspective that an awkward 30 minutes with someone you supposedly care about wouldn’t be worth complaining about online to strangers.
I don’t, I’m anti social. And I’m always honest, I don’t like fake people or to fake myself.
That’s unfortunate for you both.
Sounds like you finally have a chance to be the adult in a room. Could be a fun, new experience for you!
I had a job interview Friday and no one was there to interview me. Apparently HR dropped the ball. It’s 110 outside and I’m homeless and living out of a car atm. We had thunderstorms which meant rolling up the windows. I only have a few bucks left and therefore cannot run the AC because of gas. Once the storms were over it was back to 110 but with nearly 100% humidity and even more sweating. I’m currently stealing WiFi to write this out and I’m hungry AF. So yea, bummer about your 30 minutes.
There are mutual aid communities on lemmy where you might be able to find someone willing to send you some cash through an app. Good luck.
Yeah it was a weird experience.
Yes that sounds like nothing compared to the hellish experience of being forced to go to comic con.
I think you’re making fun of me but trust me it was not ok
“Making fun” isn’t quite right, but they were definitely being sarcastic. I think people throughout this thread are encouraging you to be less self-absorbed so that you can 1. Enjoy things around you without feeling like you’re being judged for it, and 2. Develop empathy for those you interact with.
I know it seems trite, but it’s important to realize that social interactions are way more fun if you pay attention to other people and are curious about them.
It really sounds trite. I just don’t think I’ll ever change. I’m aware enough that I’m not emphatic. That’s just isn’t me and I almost never enjoy things, even the things I do for myself.
I assume you’re quite young, which is great! I’d suggest learning to enthusiastically jump into whatever activity you wind up in. It’s way more fun that way.
At a comic con? Throw on a mask and start talking in a funny voice!
At an opera? Listen closely to the sounds and try to enjoy the artisticness of the performance!
In a big grassy field with nothing to do? Take your shoes off and let the grass tickle your feet!
In my experience it’s easy to judge things as lame and to tell yourself that you’re too cool for that thing, but that winds up not being fun, and you wind up missing out on a lot of stuff that you actually would’ve enjoyed if you let yourself get into it. Learn to be open to trying new types of experiences and you’ll wind up having more fun in life!
I’m not like that unfortunately. I would NEVER wear a costume, hell, I wouldn’t ever went there to begin with
I used to be that way too, but it’s a skill that you learn through practice. Like push yourself to get into things just a teeny tiny bit to start with for now. Then after awhile it’ll be easy to get to that point of toe-dipping, so then you push yourself to go in a bit more next time, and do that every time you’re at some activity, and then eventually you’ll find it easy to jump right into the deep end of every activity. But it does take some effort to push yourself in the earlier stages
And that’s the problem, that just isn’t me. I’m like that for everyone and everything. I get that isn’t normal, but it is what it is. I just despise being forced to do social stuff, a cringe like situation like a comic con is probably even worse.
Is like changing nature, you just can’t do that. That’s how rooted is this thing on me, I can’t change it.
Would you want to change it if you could?
It would probably make in existence less useless and maybe would had gave me a girlfriend in my lifetime, I dunno though. I know that isn’t me.
You honestly sound very depressed and like you really don’t know what you ARE. Try things, open mindedly, and you may find that some of these things are you, or can be fun regardless. Stop getting in your own way.
If you want to change this about yourself, then you can see a therapist to help you do it. You don’t have to be mentally ill to see a therapist, they can just help you make changes in yourself that you want to make. For something like this you would want to see a CBT therapist
Do you speak Swahili?
No?
Does that mean you can’t learn Swahili?
Probably no. I know that’s the language the Majini speak in resident evil 5 though.
So you don’t like comic cons (they have other things at those events besides manga and comics) but you know the language the NPCs speak in a video game?
You should honestly fit right the fuck in at one of those. Honestly, the awkward self-pity already does. I meet so many people who are incredibly shy/awkward/what-have-you show up and it’s actually their first one, and they always end up having an absolute blast.
You’re surrounded by like-minded people who are just there to nerd out and have fun with their community. And sometimes the costumes can actually be amazing.
I’m saying you’re a general intelligence. You have the kind of intelligence between your ears that the largest companies on the planet would gladly pay 100 billion dollars to be able to create.
You can learn and change and grow. “I am this” or “I am not that”. This just isn’t how it works. We cut off parts and build new parts all the time.
What do you like to do?
Crickets
They hate
They like to be defined, to know they’re giving the impression of a particular character, inducing a particular feeling in their audience.
Have you ever acted in anything? A play, a movie, a skit, improv?
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Sorry for your loss.
I’m very sorry. It’s so hard to lose them.
Very sorry dude(tte). These are tough moments :(
Ngl this is one of the reasons I never wanted any pet after reaching adulthood.
Rip to the dogs.
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I had a cookout at my house, had maybe 15 people over, lots of drinking, lots of swimming. I just got a new grill for the party and it was nice to cook on. Today I’m working 12 hours which is annoying but that’s life.
Bro here acting like a lil bro with his lil bro
The Left ranked first at the elections in France, so suddenly much, much better than the expected brown/black outcome.
And Labour won a landslide in the UK! Good stuff!
Politics… Too dumb to understand them and honestly don’t care to vote about anything. Everyone’s corrupt anyways.
Despite corruption, try looking for which parties spread the least hatred. That’s a good start, surely?
Usually never win lol
My spouse and I rode our motorcycles from the Midwest to the East Coast over Thursday and Friday. We’ve spent the weekend hanging out with family and friends that we haven’t seen in months. It’s been a good time and we’ll be here for the rest of the week.
That sounds both cool and terrifying.
Why terrifying?
All of existence is a thin veneer of order over a roiling sea of chaos. Terror is the primordial experience, at times merely occluded by the colorful distractions of gaiety and hope.
Depends, I guess.
Are they riding fast Moto Guzzis? Really terrifying but also a lot of fun I imagine. Big, slow-ish Harleys? Not that terrifying, also pretty fun and damn cool IMO.
Hello,
I see you are a new account, feel free to join !casualconversation@lemm.ee , we have a lot of those threads
It’s not a new account. It’s a serial ban evader who is on like his 6th account because he keeps getting banned from asklemmy for acting like an incel
This makes so much sense. This person sounds insufferable on so many levels.
Every time he posts, he responds to every reply being dismissive and shitty. He literally can’t say the words “woman” or “relationship” without adding on “which I will never get to experience”. Whenever anyone tries to give him actionable advice like therapy or ways to improve his mindset, he shuts them down.
No thank you bot
Dude did you just call Blaze a bot
You can’t deny it really “sounded” like one
They’re not a bot, just a very zealous mod trying to keep traffic and posts happening in some smaller communities.
Most lemmy apps and front ends also identify bot accounts with a bot icon next to the username.
Sync does this. Although I think it might not be too accurate, because I think I’ve seen one or two actual accounts with the bot icon
It’s a setting you can change in your lemmy profile, and having the bot setting turned on doesn’t stop you from posting manually.
I’m not sure if it goes the other way around though so bad-faith bot posts pretending to be real people could probably still happen if the bot setting is never enabled.
Edit: just to be clear Blaze is definitely not a bot but I don’t think bots necessarily have to have the bot icon.
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I went to a small (~30 people) festival dedicated to wood carving, because I was asked if a wanted to cook for everyone. Found it very inspiring to get an impression of that very specific sub culture.
Far far too short, though did have a mates birthday so that was fun
Up and down. Depression hit me super hard, slept/read 14-hour days, but despite that, there were some great things.
Took the family out on my little 10’ boat and watched the downtown fireworks from the river. We were directly underneath, cardboard shells raining on us! What a rush! None of us has ever seen anything like it.
Been limping along with a shit fridge that barely works. Got a new one from FB for $200! Nicest fridge I’ve ever had. Going to be a huge project swapping them. Hell, getting it out of the other guy’s house was a chore.
And tonight we’re hitting Aldi and loading up on food. Can’t wait to have a good fridge, freezer and ice maker again.
Congratulations!!!
A working fridge is a great thing!
That sounds interesting enough.
Started GMing a Cyberpunk Red campaign, went to the pool, cleaned my bathtub.
Only understood the second part.
Spent most of today on trains coming back to Germany from my 2 weeks Interrail trip to the UK. Had a great time there. Spent yesterday exploring Bath and climbing up Solsbury Hill in the evening.
