It sounds way less offensive to those who decry the original terminology’s problematic roots but still keeps its meaning intact.

  • cacheson 🏴🔁🍊@piefed.social
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    2 months ago

    the Sub is supposed to be the one that’s actually in control

    This is a myth, presumably meant to be reassuring to subs that are new to BDSM, at the expense of risk awareness. In principle the sub is no more “in control” than the dom is, and in practice they are often significantly less so.