The inbound votes are also somewhat funny. Do people outside lemmy.cafe think that it’s slow? Did they miss the sub and thought it was about their instance?

In general - lemmy software is very alpha. It’s also possible I have done something wrong on the setup side, however unlikely. I don’t want to send any users away, but if you do get fed up with lemmy.cafe - would please let me know at some point if the other instance is substantially better? I could reach out to the admins and ask about their setup.