A bit of solo stress release can be great. I’m curious what kind of inspiration y’all use, and in what contexts.

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    Shamefully, Mostly photos of my female friends.

    I’ve discovered the term demisexual and that was a bit of a revelation. I’ve always developed sexual attraction to my female friends as we grew closer. I have an incredibly hard time finding porn as a result. I just can’t get into some random I don’t know. But when I do find a porn I like, I usually return to the same models frequently, and develop enough of a familiarity with them that their content works more. I also found that the models tend to have similar features or body shapes as my female friends. This was a porn habit I had that didn’t realize until recently.

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    I try to push the boundaries of what I find attractive. If I’m not attracted to a certain gender, body type, skin colour, tattoos/piercings etc, I’ll try to jerk to only that until I change my brain into liking that thing.

    Is that weird?

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    I find myself looking for mtf trans and crossdressing video content the most. Even if it’s vanilla, even if real-life traps are flakes, even if the video is only 2 minutes long, for me masturbation has become a get-it-over-with experience until I find a partner again.

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    I tend to go for gif content from small creators. My tastes are a bit specific and not well served though. I like captioned gifs, but the ones I’ve been seeing lately are so godawful I’ve been rethinking my sources. That is my go to for a “help me get to sleep wank,” but if I’m craving deep satisfaction it is my partner every time. We have a dynamic where we like to record and its so much better than anything I could find online.

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    Julie Nolke had a great video of YT where here “boyfriend” walked in or her looking at porn. Rather than be mad, he was interested in what she was watching and convinced her to share. When she agreed, she opens the laptop and hits play. Immediately, the guy is like, “ohmygod!.” Her response was so awesome. She says, “I didn’t start here! Don’t judge my porn journey!”

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    My wife. Or, very rarely as time passes, old memories.

    No bullshit.

    Somewhere back in my thirties, I started getting tired of naked strangers on screens and paper. By the time we got married, the only other thing I was interested in was written erotica. While I still enjoy that, it isn’t for masturbation, just for the entertainment.

    Now, I have a partner that’s a better match in every way than I could have ever hoped for. Best sex I’ve ever had, and she’s an incredible person the rest of the time too. So when it’s solo time, she’s the first thing that comes to mind.

    But, every now and then, memories will stir, and that’s its own joy.

    Porn? It’s fucking boring when it isn’t absurd, and it’s just depressing when it isn’t boring. The internet killed interesting porn.

    I’m not saying it isn’t okay for other people, y’all do y’all. Just saying I’m pretty much done with that shit. Out of curiosity, I’ve even tried watching some older porn from before it went pure gonzo incest crap, and nothing. Even stuff that I very much liked back in my teens and twenties.

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    The AskLemmyNSFW “what dirty fun have you been up to” is really nice. Thanks, DazedAndConfused :)

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    Erotic gender transformation stories. I love it all. Short stories, novellas, and massive multipart story arcs. Surgical transformations, magical fairies and genies, and science fiction nanobots. Forced changes, reluctant but secretly desired transformations, and voluntarily embracing feminity.

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    For me, it started out with plain old imagination and porn videos. It took a tragically long time to discover literotica and audio.

    At least for me, written erotica (sometimes with the assistance of AI), comics and audio give a much nicer experience with preference changing depending on mood. Part of that might be because it leaves a lot to the imagination.

    Only time I use video porn nowadays is when wanting to just “get it over with quickly”.

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    I’ve been at a bit of a crossroads for this as well recently. I don’t really know that I have a go-to anymore. I agree that commercial videos are more of a “just to get off quickly” kind of situation. It always feels more like it takes longer to find a decent video than to actually cum.

    If I’m using toys on myself(bi M) I prefer to watch hypnos, but that’s going to be a niche fetish thing that doesn’t work for most. If I’m not using toys, nothing compares to chat/rp with an actual partner.

    I like erotica and it’s a much more satisfying experience than videos, but it’s so difficult to find something that I like that doesn’t have bad writing or something weird that’s a turn off. I’m also the type of person who can’t read the same thing twice so even if I find something it’s a one-time experience.

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      I suggest Tumblr, their nsfw scene is coming back and they have plenty of people who make kink posts and have stories and descriptions, really gets me going a lot of the time

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        Back when I was a hornier teenager I was on Tumblr a bunch when it was actually in it’s heyday. I really don’t know that I could go back to that life at this point though.

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    Imagination, most of the time. Written D/s M/f erotica, or occasionally MF/f, written from either perspective, the rest of the time. I enjoy a lot of the pictures on here but not in a way that inspires masturbation. Just enjoy smut in general, interesting and keeps a slow burn, right?

    Never really seek out porn videos.

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      I enjoy a lot of the pictures on here but not in a way that inspires masturbation. Just enjoy smut in general, interesting and keeps a slow burn, right?

      I’m very much the same way. I honestly just appreciate most of what’s posted from an artistic point of view. Otherwise it’s just nice to keep a mild amount of arousal simmering and waiting for the next experience. Makes everything that much more satisfying!

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    Most of the time I look at videos or pictures. My interests are relatively diverse so what I watch or look at will vary per day based on mood. Happy to go into more details if anyone is curious, but it starts deviating from the question. Finding pictures online has gotten harder since animated gifs have gotten more popular and many of the picture web sites have shut down. Some days I’ll read erotica (Literotica) and if in the shower, imagination. But 95% of the time it’s pictures or videos.