I bring it because people have used me many times for their own ends wherever I go and I wanted to clarify how to find people you trust especially if you have autism like me.

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    10 days ago

    A few of those items are only redflags if done in a specific way. For example about “non-reciprocal”: if you are in a wheelchair and your partner is arachnophobic, it makes sense that you are the only one who takes care about dealing with spiders while your partner is the only one who helps you move around. I recommend that you start consulting this kind of list only when something starts to “not feel right”, otherwise you’ll poison all your relations before they even start (because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship). Still I’m no relationship expert, so take my advice for what it’s worth.

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      9 days ago

      I agree! Most people do some of the things on there sometimes. Sometimes someone does something that makes us think they’re a bad person. Sometimes we make a promise and don’t follow through. Sometimes we participate in a competition and try to win. And, sometimes we don’t want to be alone. That’s normal human behavior. However, if most of these are present most of the time, then it’s a sign of a poor situation.