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      Hmmm, on the other hand, he’s a fragile man child with a gun, and historically that goes bad for people with my complexion.

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      The shirt is using an aggressive tone, which is inferring the person wearing is someone who would complain about “those damn libs and their pronouns.”

      But even with the aggressive tone, the shirt is letting us know that which pronouns he uses.

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    As a man, I have never been “proud” to be a man, I mostly feel ambivalent about it, it is who I am, I’d rather be proud about my actions than my gender.

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      In case you get any odd responses, while many people use ambivalent to mean they don’t care, it actually means you have contradictory feelings, i e., you are both for and against something.

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        Which is true, there are parts I like about being a man, and there are parts I dislike about being a man.

        In general I am comfortable

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      This. I think it’s kinda ridiculous to be proud of something you haven’t done anything for. I’ll much rather be proud of the thing I did than about shit like where I’m born or as what I’m born.

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        The only time I would say that doesn’t apply is when you’re part of a traditionally marginalized group. Black pride, or queer pride or indigenous pride all make sense to me. Because it’s a collective pride thing more than an individual pride thing.

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        I will make no secret about how I don’t really understand transgender people, it used to annoy me, but since about a year or two ago I realized that it doesn’t matter to me, and it apparently matters a lot to them.

        So I stopped caring enough to be annoyed, I realized that if they are happy and it doesn’t hurt others, then I have no reason to make their day worse.

        To all trans people, I may not understand what you feel, but I will not be a dick about it, my confusion is my own issue and I will do my best to not make it yours.

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          I wish more people were okay with not understanding other people or what they do to express themselves and their identity, but accepting them regardless, so you have my commendations.

          People way into body piercing confuse me, but if that’s your thing, go for it. As long as you are doing what makes you comfortable in your own body, that’s the important part.

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      He’s proud fucking men. Good for him.

      He is “men”? As in multiple? So we should refer to him as they/them?

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    Some people would have just cut their hair to give the societal cue about their gender, but I give this guy credit for making a special pronoun vest instead of conforming.

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      These idiots take other people being proud of who they are as a personal attack against males. I debate if it’s insecurity or ego to think it’s all about them. You can be proud to be male, it’s just kind of dickish since society has literally never cared about you being male.

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        In a hyper-individuelistic society where everyone is constantly being compared and judged, the feeling that you’re better than everyone else brings incredible relief. Of course the concept of being better than others is deeply flawed but you never learned to question these things. So how do you achieve the feeling? Study hard, lift others around you, save your money. Sure, but that takes years, and it’s hard work. So what if you’re inherently better than others-- that solves it. Race, language, gender, nationaliry… All things that cost you no effort. There’s another shortcut to these feelings. All you have to do to in order to become better than most of the population and get into to heaven is say that you believe the Bible. That’s it. Just gotta say you believe it and you’re in the club. Zero effort, all the dopamine. Supporting some sports team. Buying a particular car. Using what you buy to signal to others something about you. Bumper stickers, adding a ribbon to your profile picture, posting some cringe on LinkedIn, attention seeking on your birthday… All attempts to showcase how excellent you are with minimal effort.

        So if your entire sense of self worth is based on attributes about you which you were either born with or cost you no effort, you’ll want to support anyone who places importance on those things. Nationality, consumerism, race, gender, religion, etc.

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        I do find it quite weird when people claim to be proud of something for which they did nothing to achieve it. Like, his shirt literally says that he was born male. I guess, he did manage to get successfully born, so uh good job?

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          It’s a last resort.

          Nationality, race, sex all are things that can’t be taken away from you. Even the lowest of the low lives still can look down on mexicans, blacks, women because at least he’s not that!

          Attacking these last resorts by making them not matter, is an attack on the flimsy sense of self worth these people have. You can’t be proud to be a man if it doesn’t matter that you’re a man.

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          I mean chance/luck is a huge part of everything. Sure you can nudge things a bit here or there but you really shouldn’t be proud of anything you “accomplish” if you think about all the luck involved.

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          I’ve never been prouder of that time I rolled 2 dice and got 12. A breathtaking, crowning achievement where all my years of hard work or education or whatever paid off.