I used to think I’m a guy, I like many masculine things like motor sports, fixing cars, playing shooters. Things that typically boys like and I have no desire to wear girly clothes or anything like that. But I’ve always when I was younger liked hanging out with girls more than I liked hanging out with other dudes. Maybe that’s not weird but I liked their company more, like how other boys would hang out with the guys, I liked doing that but with girls.

Recently I met someone new, she’s a lot like me in her interests and even her style, and I learned she’s transfem and that has made me question whether I might be trans myself. I asked her to call me by she/her pronouns for a bit to see how it feels, and I got a rush of happiness when she referred to me with she/her pronouns. So now I’m not sure if I am a guy or not anymore. I don’t have any discomfort towards my penis and I do think I’d miss it if it were gone, but lately I have been getting discomfort related to my chest, it feels flat and empty, and wrong. Like it should be bigger than it is. It doesn’t seem normal for a guy to feel like that.

I really need help, is it normal for a guy to feel like this or does this mean I might be trans?

  • Mossy Feathers (She/They)Afaraf
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    21 hours ago

    Welcome to the family, sweetie. Unfortunately I can’t give you a whole lot more help atm, I’m unfortunately not in a place where I can actually transition myself. However, I wish you luck on your journey <3

    Edit: oh yeah, btw, having a penis on estrogen is a use-it-or-lose-it kinda thing. You’ll wanna make sure you’re regularly stimulating it.

    • 𝕯𝖎𝖕𝖘𝖍𝖎𝖙⚧ [She/Her]@lemm.eeOPAfaraf
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      13 hours ago

      I’m still happy and grateful you were able to help me this far. I probably never would’ve figured it out if it weren’t for you and the nice people here, thank you.

      Edit: oh yeah, btw, having a penis on estrogen is a use-it-or-lose-it kinda thing. You’ll wanna make sure you’re regularly stimulating it.

      Oh, I wasn’t aware of that, good to know though. I don’t think that’ll be an issue since it does regularly see use 😅 and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon.

      • Mossy Feathers (She/They)Afaraf
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        9 hours ago

        Hah, well, I’d still suggest making sure you’re talking to a therapist. They’ll be able to help you through the process, help you make sure it’s really what you want, things like that. It sounds like it clicked for you though, and that’s a good sign.