I know sex toys are generally a personal thing. But they’re also expensive and fun. How would you feel if a guy you’re hooking up with owned a vibrator and wanted to use it on you?
I know sex toys are generally a personal thing. But they’re also expensive and fun. How would you feel if a guy you’re hooking up with owned a vibrator and wanted to use it on you?
Can we clarify if they properly wash their toys between partners? A large proportion of sex toys are designed to be safe to throw in a pot of boiling water (think plugs, dildos etc…) and most other ones are handwashable so… are the toys getting a reasonable amount of cleaning between use?
(Also, this question can probably be ungendered as there are plenty of sex toys for everyone).
I feel we should assume so. I doubt anyone would be ok with an uncleaned sextoy. Hell, I wouldn’t even be ok with my own uncleaned sextoys.
Definitely washing it well after the fact, is that something that I should mention?
I don’t think it really matters because the person who thinks it’s okay to use sex toys on multiple random partners probably isn’t the type to be extra diligent about cleaning them. There’s no way to guarantee to the partner that they’ve done any cleaning on it at all and they should understand that.
I mean you kind of have to accept that a sex partner used the very same body parts with other people, and if anything, those are even harder to sterilize. So your assumption that a person who doesn’t share with you an irrational greater concern about toys is untrustworthy seems problematic.
Source: you made it the fuck up.
While I’m positive the situation you describe occurs, it is a rarity. Even when using sex toys with one partner you want to clean them after use, same way you would a dinner plate (especially funny given how many are dishwasher safe).
That being said, I do typically try to send sex toys along with previous partners, and only really dive into their use once a relationship gets more serious - if someone absolutely needs them to be satisfied sexually, they probably own their own.
Of course I made it up. We’re discussing a hypothetical scenario here where OP is asking our opinions on the matter.
You’re positive it’s a rarity based on what exactly? Let’s see that source.
Yes of course they should be cleaned after use just like you should regularly wash your hands, wipe/wash your ass after pooping, shower, brush your teeth, cover your mouth and nose when you sneeze, etc yet many people fail at these as well. There’s lots of nasty people out there.
There’s zero way to confirm whether the person with the sex toy has cleaned it properly unless you physically helped them with it, so I don’t see any scenario where I would find this acceptable and I would be repulsed at the suggestion and implication of someone asking to use a used toy on me.
The source is not being someone like you, that clearly doesn’t bang a lot of people - nothing wrong with that inherently, but yours sounds clearly hypothetically whereas mine is anecdotal - both just pissing in the wind, but at least my stream is aimed downwind and not spraying back into my face
You can… boil it in front of them.
Or you could just not use it at all. Do you typically start your romantic encounters with a boiling pot of water and a second-hand sex toy? What exactly is the upside for the woman in this scenario?
You’re right. I forgot completely what I learned in sex-ed:
Whatever you say, bud. I’m sure the ladies are just as thrilled when you try to convince then that it’s totally okay to reuse a condom used on someone else because you washed it off in the sink.
Depends on the woman, but some enjoy it for personal reasons. Like, I have multiple friends I’ve watched take the same dildo (at different events) connected to a F machine and they love just getting drilled by it in front of their friends. And we all know the owner of the machine/dildo properly cleans and sanitizes it between events.
My entire friend group is kinky and poly, so I understand I’m not exactly a normal responder.
E: I think it’s important to note that these are non-poros dildos, so there’s no worries about fluid bonding. Also, condoms are helpful in preventing that as well.