It does feel lonely on fedi as trans guy
Not just as trans guy, but also the one who isn’t that much interested in tech (I can learn something for my amateur website, but that’s it).
It’s also kinda interesting that I used to have even some aversion to learning tech due to family trauma (don’t force your own goals on your kids) and misogyny in IT spaces, which makes makes it a bit harder to have joy in learning it (and also it’s fucking hard, I need explanations like I’m 5 or I won’t understand). Though among my all-transmasc family members I’m still the one most interested in IT, LOL.
And basically that’s why I find bluesky more appealing to me lately, simply because I see variety of interests and more transmascs. If I see memes and shitposts in trans communities on fedi, they’re oriented mostly to transfems into tech (which I don’t mind at all, I’m just not the target audience). Despite all of that, I will continue to actively use fedi at least to be the one who makes some variety here :D
There’s been a couple of transmascs on the genderverse matrix server, but I’ve never seen them active at the same time :(
the transfem blahaj community has about 3,600 users, this one has about 600.
Its a pattern I’ve noticed on online platforms. The trans population’s gender balance tends to be the opposite of the site’s cis population. The fediverse seems disproportionally male generally, so it tracks.
When I discovered I was a trans woman my instinct was to look up the trans communities on the sites I already used. I didn’t reevaluate my entire internet habits holistically, and switch to female dominated platforms to match my new identity. I get the impression that’s what most people do.
I’m not surprised to read that bluesky has more transmasc content. Whatever platform has more cis girls will probably have more transmascs as well, at a guess.
Its probably not for the best for trans people to be on platforms dominated by opposite gendered cis people, but it seems like an inevitability of the internet.
@hildegarde that’s an interesting theory. Might explain why I saw equally both transmascs and transfems on Tumblr, for example, though many transfems are leaving due to Tumblr staff being hostile to them. I also guess disproportion may be caused by transmascs tending to be silent about themselves for various reasons
That’s something I’ve noticed as well. We tend to blend in. I don’t say I’m a trans guy unless I’m somewhere like this.
Yes it’s strange. Irl I know mostly transmasc people but every online space I’ve visited is ‘dominated’ by transfem people. I’m happy they’re here but I do wish there were more transmasc people as well. I have similar aversions to tech but I like politics which is why I like lemmy.
I’m not a trans guy, I’m a trans gal. But I can say I’m not in IT!
Welcome here! I’m not trans, but I want to say your visibility matters, and you being here makes a difference. If people see you, they’ll know that they’re not alone. So thank you.
No kidding. I don’t mind it since the ladies over here on blåhaj are overall very nice and funny, but lonely does describe it pretty well. I’m relatively lucky to enjoy the tech stuff, which is one of the main reasons I’m here. Guess I oughta try to be more active myself to add a little chatter around here, but I don’t usually have much to say ^^;
