I love regardless of gender. Some people swoon over men, some over women. I’d swoon over anyone.

I was straight until my first girl crush in high school. For a while, I was bi with a heavy preference for men.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I still like men, but as I got older, I like them less and had bad luck with them (primarily regarding sex or emotional unavailability or even cheating). While not all men are this way, it still changed my perception of them in dating.

I’m happy with my current GF as of now.

  • Klnsfw 🏳️‍🌈@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    1·
    10 hours ago

    It’s hard to say, because for a very long time I lacked the representations and words to understand that I was bi (and probably demiromantic).

    It’s tempting to blame comphet for suppressing feelings I might have had when I was younger. Maybe that’s rewriting history.

    And besides, my preferences don’t totally work the same way romantically and sexually.

  • WahotsEnglish
    3·
    14 hours ago

    Yep, I always fell in love with bad girls. I met a really sweet guy, and ended up marrying each other after years of dating. :)

    It was a fairly big U-turn for me, haha. I love that guy to pieces!

  • Apple 🍎/ リンゴ @lemm.eeEnglish
    3·
    20 hours ago

    Yep. Comphet made me think I liked men. Once I dated some, I decided I’m not even into them and it was comphet all along.

    Now I’m a lesbian who happens to be OP’s girlfriend (check our bios).

  • drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    1 day ago

    yes. i used to be a typical straight girl, but at an early age, i realized i didn’t care what the gender was. i heavily preferred men but wouldn’t mind dating a girl (bi-curious).

    my first girlfriend was in middle school (6th grade) and after that, i liked a lot more girls than guys.

    i still had male crushes though and was quite open to dating men. (bi)

    when i transitioned to a man, i was still bi, but later began to prefer men again. (especially because i had bad breakups with women where they would cheat/ignore me/treat me badly)

    i identified as gay until i got back with my gf and realized i still held feelings for women. subsequently, i detransitioned (due to some trauma/transphobia) and questioned being a lesbian.

    after i officially broke up with my bf of a few years who didn’t treat me right, i realized i didn’t actually have feelings for men at all and it was comphet.