I hope I wasn’t coming off as someone who is upset with the existence of trans individuals. I have had trans friends. Who I housed at my home when they were kicked out of their homes. I have helped and been an ally before I knew what an ally was. I saw the mod deleted my comment. But I wasn’t trying to be mean or anything.
Well, no. Not exactly. I do think you are using “I have black friends so I can’t be racist” sort of logic to not be critical of your original comment. But I never thought you were coming from a place of malice or outright bigotry, just one of ignorance. There is a lot of propaganda around anti-trans legislation, so I truly can’t fault you for not understanding the nuance of endocrinology.
Yet having said that, the fact that you and your ex argued about this intensely enough that you split , that you describe her stance as “devout” and that yesterday you saw this thread as an opportunity to bring the story up. Well… it speaks to bias that apparently you still hold. I believe you were not trying to be mean, but when you talk about “the physical differences between men and women” as a way to argue for trans exclusion than you clearly do not understand the community or the issues we face, much less be an ally.
At a certain point, intent or former trans friends just doesn’t matter.
I hope I wasn’t coming off as someone who is upset with the existence of trans individuals. I have had trans friends. Who I housed at my home when they were kicked out of their homes. I have helped and been an ally before I knew what an ally was. I saw the mod deleted my comment. But I wasn’t trying to be mean or anything.
Well, no. Not exactly. I do think you are using “I have black friends so I can’t be racist” sort of logic to not be critical of your original comment. But I never thought you were coming from a place of malice or outright bigotry, just one of ignorance. There is a lot of propaganda around anti-trans legislation, so I truly can’t fault you for not understanding the nuance of endocrinology.
Yet having said that, the fact that you and your ex argued about this intensely enough that you split , that you describe her stance as “devout” and that yesterday you saw this thread as an opportunity to bring the story up. Well… it speaks to bias that apparently you still hold. I believe you were not trying to be mean, but when you talk about “the physical differences between men and women” as a way to argue for trans exclusion than you clearly do not understand the community or the issues we face, much less be an ally.
At a certain point, intent or former trans friends just doesn’t matter.