I’ve been in a few situations where I need substantial help from strangers, and some have offered to help (most haven’t followed through) but I just can’t do it.

For example someone offered to help me move and I just feel super uncomfortable about it to the point where I’d rather risk something bad happening to me. Like I feel super awkward and uncomfortable accepting huge favours from strangers

Someone even offered a place to stay for me with my pets but I can’t accept it cause I feel way too awkward and like I owe them or something, like I have a huge fear and anxiety about it

Like I just feel like a disgusting parasite wasting their time and energy and it’s also humiliating

Is that normal?

  • RagingHungryPanda@lemm.ee
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    6 days ago

    This is a very common thing, especially those with Nice Guy ™ syndrome. The gist of it there is that you don’t feel like you have the worth or don’t deserve good things, or something along those lines, so someone helping you violates that narrative, more or less.

    I don’t know if this applies or if I’m way off in left field, but Dr. Robert Glover is a phsychologist who’s been working on these traits for a long time. Here’s his website and book.

    • Battle Masker@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      6 days ago

      I thought the “Nice guy” thing was some bullshit where if you do something nice, you deserve to get something good in return, and not getting anything in return is “disrespectful” which sets off those nIcE gUyZ and leads to them insulting and berating whoever they help.

      Also that creepo mentality would be a valid reason to feel uncomfortable to ask for help