I’ve been in a few situations where I need substantial help from strangers, and some have offered to help (most haven’t followed through) but I just can’t do it.

For example someone offered to help me move and I just feel super uncomfortable about it to the point where I’d rather risk something bad happening to me. Like I feel super awkward and uncomfortable accepting huge favours from strangers

Someone even offered a place to stay for me with my pets but I can’t accept it cause I feel way too awkward and like I owe them or something, like I have a huge fear and anxiety about it

Like I just feel like a disgusting parasite wasting their time and energy and it’s also humiliating

Is that normal?

  • Kissaki@feddit.orgEnglish
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    22 hours ago

    I think that’s somewhat common and natural, but also unnecessary and uncalled for.

    Let the other party decide for themselves whether they’re fine helping and to what degree. From your side, take the help you can get.

    • jlyndby@lemmy.worldOP
      3·
      22 hours ago

      Wdym by uncalled for? Like… idk I can’t control how I feel 😭

      Plus since so many people flopped maybe they really aren’t ok with helping

      • Kissaki@feddit.orgEnglish
        3·
        22 hours ago

        By uncalled for I mean there’s not really a factual and warranted reason for it.

        I tried to present the two sides opposed to each other. How many people feel vs how that’s usually not factually appropriate. Doesn’t magically change that we feel that way of course.