(I’m a transfem tomboy btw)

  • SnowChickenFlake@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    Modern terminology is too much for me, man… 😞

    Does “Transfem” mean that your “assigned” sex at birth was male or female?

    • 𝕯𝖎𝖕𝖘𝖍𝖎𝖙⚧ [She/Her]@lemm.eeOP
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      2 days ago

      It means AMAB. Best way to remember is that trans terminology describes identities we identify with, or direction of transition. So trans women are women, and transfem (transfeminine) means feminine or feminizing.

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        19 hours ago

        I think it’s easier to remember in the negative form: They don’t want to be called a woman, so why risk your teeth and call them a transwoman. (For AFAB)

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        22 hours ago

        direction of transition is the easiest way to think about it imo. hrt femboys, binary trans women, nonbinary/GNC trans women would then all fall under the umbrella of “transfem”

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          18 hours ago

          just for clarification, ive heard “transfem enby” in a book but it didn’t explain what it specifically meant, does that mean nonbinary person that was assigned male at birth?

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            14 hours ago

            yes. that also usually implies that said person is transitioning socially (name/pronouns/gender marker/presentation) and or medically (hormones).

            one can certainly be a nonbinary amab and not do those things, but I wouldn’t consider them transfem, personally.

    • 𝕯𝖎𝖕𝖘𝖍𝖎𝖙⚧ [She/Her]@lemm.eeOP
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      2 days ago

      That seems shitty (also FYI trap is a nasty word). I’m not doing that at all. I try and be very clear that I’m a girl. A masculine girl who likes sports, cars, and getting dirty but a girl no less.

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        Yeah, the person was actually… not a nice person at all. This wasn’t referring to you as well, but rather just something this post reminded me of, as both are about gender-non-conforming trans people.
        And he explicitly used that word himself, that’s why I used it. Afaik it can be used in a super transphobic way, but also as a normal word if it refers to femboys (at least I know / knew some using it to refer to themselves), but tell me if you know differently about it.