Hey Folks!

I’ve been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19€ bill? Here’s a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there’s a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don’t know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don’t tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

  • godless@latte.isnot.coffee
    227·
    1 year ago

    Nobody can force you to. People will probably consider you to be rude, but you do yours. I also live in a place where not tipping is customary (and in fact tipping considered to be rude) and refuse to embrace this system. I’m already annoyed by list prices excluding VAT. That’s like a borderline scam.

    • Stumblinbear
      10·
      1 year ago

      We don’t have a VAT in the US, only sales tax. It’s not just a name difference, they’re different in how they’re applied

      • DigitalBits@lemmy.fmhy.ml
        8·
        1 year ago

        They’re not different to the consumer. Either way they’re a surcharge to the store price of the item, and most places in the world include it on the sticker.

        • Stumblinbear
          1·
          1 year ago

          I am aware. I was just correcting the one thing not disagreeing as a whole

    • kilgore@feddit.deOP
      85·
      1 year ago

      Yeah I guess I’ll have to see how comfortable I am in the situation. I feel like the stupid system will never change unless people just stop tipping.

      • Seppo Enarvi@lemmy.ml
        81·
        1 year ago

        I don’t see how the system would change unless people stop tipping, but as a foreigner I don’t see it as my responsibility to change their system.

      • ZappySnap@lemmy.one
        1·
        1 year ago

        The simple rule of thumb is: if you are in a full service sit down restaurant (waiter takes order and then brings you your food, tipping is expected, and not doing so is seen as a major dick move, because it directly stiffs the waitstaff. The only time you should not tip in this situation is if the service is absolutely horrible.

        Any other situation, like ordering at a counter and then going to get your food, or any fast food, tipping may be offered as an ask on the kiosk, but it’s never expected (not in my opinion deserved.).

        But simply: if you are waited on, too 20% and be done with it.

      • Arcaneslime@lemmy.ml
        34·
        1 year ago

        And that’ll only hurt the poor employee’s efforts to pay rent this month. The employer could care less, and sure you may make them mad enough that you’re the last straw and they quit, but I’d be hard pressed to think you’re magnanimous for it.