or maybe some other terminology would be better? lots of people get confused when you ask them to choose an instance, sometimes I think even the word “proxy”, “host”, or “hub” is simpler
the specific terms aren’t my point, just a discussion to see if we can come up with a better name
mastodon can do default instances because they have the account migration process… i totally agree this is a great solution: get people in with sane defaults, and then let people move once they know how it works
there will be plenty of people that don’t move (or maybe that’s solvable too: analyse your toots and suggest a more niche instance after 2mo?) but i’m not sure that’s a huge problem if your “default instance” is more of a random choice from a list of sane defaults