Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.
Breaking news: cats are pretty nice.
They can be, he says, as he nurses the scratch marks on his hands from playing with Gibson.
Second last walk / ball throwing adventure for hams.
3 days of 1.5hrs of pure ball throwing until he refuses in the morning, 1.5hrs of ball throwing / socialising with other doggos in the evening seems to be a solid strategy with him.
Also had a pug and sausage dog have a go at him and he freaked out a bit which is a bit ridiculous. The pug was so imbred it could hardly breathe.
then he complains about leaving the dog park only to walk home at a snails pace and collapse in the kitchen.
I’ve hit serious burnout. Can hardly function. Weekends spent resting. According to the self care podcasts I listen to, I should schedule a getaway somewhere nice to unwind for a week or two. Lol.
No leave - new job. Too much responsibility at home to be able to walk away. What am I supposed to do? Monthly therapy isn’t helping. Mindfulness can get stuffed. Thankful for my cat.
I’m the strong person who pushes though, and people say “you’ll be fine, you’ll work it out, you’re the smart person” etc. I just can’t.
If you find your hands are full - start dropping things.
seriously. Just consciously dropping things because your hands are too full can be incredibly relieving. And when the world doesn’t end it releases even more.
Just make sure you’re dropping the rubber balls and not the glass ones :P
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take a holiday at home , pretend you are on holiday and that you will get back to thinking serious thoughts in 2 weeks time
As someone who is recovering from this I did something similar with podcasts. I also kept a spreadsheet as opposed to journaling to be brutally honest to myself about how things might be compounding and how past things were sliding to the forefront as a lot of unwanted things were taking over.
I couldn’t bring myself to do full cold water immersion but because the majority of it was during the Winter cold water as much as I could stand (on my face) helped first thing in the morning. (If it had kept going I was going to try hands in ice water which supposed to help with stress and letting the body know you can handle it).
As far as tasks, I just did the absolute must do at home and allowed myself space. If I didn’t pressure myself with all the shoulds and musts then I would naturally do a few more things if I was up for it.
Some things had to change. For me I was lucky there was a temporary situation I didn’t realise was really contributing to it.
I also forgave myself for what I was conditioned to see as failing. Anxiety Rx podcast (while not all of it appealed to me) really helped in the sense of highlighting how common it can be for people who have relied on certain tools or ways of managing things to eventually find out that those tools no longer work. That was the bit that was really hard for me. When you are in your head a lot and function a certain way, you rely on yourself, and to reach out and find nothing there is… (I mean more in relation to our own energy/strength/resilience.) Yeah, it’s hard. I wouldn’t wish it on people and it can manifest in ways that make it challenging to identify as burnout.
It’s like you’re in my head…. Wow.
I don’t ask for help in my life, always had to rely on myself. No family support. No friends asking how I’m going. Anxiety works overtime.
Body is now keeping the score… and physically preventing me from doing things now.
Can you find just a little bit of time out just for you? A walk? A sit under a tree? Sometimes I park a street back from after school care just to have 10 minutes between work and Mum duties. Sometimes I play music while I’m parked (either very heavy or something really light and classical) Sometimes I lay the seat back and just… stop and exist in quiet. It’s not really enough but it all helps.
Incoming pity party: made it to the interview stage of a role that I really felt aligned so well with my skillset only to be told today that again, I was the runner up and there was just someone better. I really had to fight the urge not to full-on cry on the phone when they told me because I was so devastated. I was basically manifesting in my head my future with this job all week (probably not the best idea) because I thought I was such a good candidate and thought the interview went well. It’s very rare for these roles to appear that suit my experience so I really felt almost like it was made for me but now all that hope is…gone. The only feedback they could give was just it went to someone who had different organizational skills so now I feel like maybe I just suck at what I do if there’s people out there who can do it better.
Net hugs
Could they give you any further or more specific feedback? It’s so difficult when that happens, but given what you’ve said I don’t think it would hurt to say that and try to get some more information?
Hopefully this just means a better opportunity elsewhere for you. 🤞🏻
Oh Botty
Well, you came and you posted our Daily
We did while you were away
Oh Botty
Well, you’ve worked and you stopped us from posting
And we thank you today
Oh Botty
My shingles is scabbing, but due to the location it keeps cracking open and weeping, and it’s making me fucking miserable. Also, keeping the heating on to keep me warm while I can’t really wear a shirt is making my skin awfully dry, which is making my other skin problems play up.
I just want it to be over, but I was warned it may be a long time before that happens… ughhhhhhhhhhh
Sorry for the whinge.
Would calamine lotion help or even paw paw ointment?
I was instructed not to do too much to them, I am allowed oatmeal baths though. It seems that it’s a suck-it-up sort of thing once it starts to scab.
Oh no. I hope it’s not gonna be a long one for you. All the best.
There is a thing called Pinetarsol which might be allowed. It helps itch, but fucking stinks so pick your annoyance I guess
Strangely enough I quite like the tar smell. Am I weird?
Probably 😺 I can drink Retsina but this wash is a bit much personally
I’ve been instructed to basically leave it alone, unfortunately, it’s just me and the odd oatmeal bath.
On another note I will say that I like Pinetarsol, I use it every spring when my skin stuff gets out of control with allergies and whatnot.
Hello good people. How it going?
Decidedly flat. Somebody entertain me?
Go for a walk and pick a fight with a senior citizen.
Everyone wins.
You remind me of the CAH “get drunk and fight a police horse”
Who’s to say the horse didn’t have it coming.
I’m phobic of the damn critters, but cannot approve of punching them.
Hence why senior citizen are an adequate substitute.
Lazy. Still horizontal. How you?
Upright and dejected.
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Going ok for the moment while I work at another site. Hoping the end of the day comes quickly.
Drinking too much coffee which is making me run to the bathroom far too often.
How’s it going with you?
Busy as shit at work. Keeping fit and healthy, but also seething with rage at the general public for existing.
Trying to make the best of this Friday without doing too much work.
Well hopefully you’ll be able finish up work and go home fairly soon as half the day has gone already.
Thankfully I’m working from home today, but some dingbat filled my afternoon with meetings. And I’m covering for a couple of people who are off for an extended period.
Wanted to crack a brew open during the last meeting but taking my son shopping later and prefer to be sober.
This day ain’t mine, but I appreciate your good will towards me :)
Aww that’s a bummer, well after taking your son out shopping I hope you’ll be able to put your feet up and crack one open after everything has settled.
Good. I had to go and get some buns because we are having lobster rolls for dinner with lots and lots of beer. How are you going?
Pretty good. Busy and tired. Looking forward to beers tonight as well. No lobster for us though Mrs Moneybags ;)
Look I had to try those aldi frozen lobster tails didn’t I? The thing is the kid wasn’t going to be home so I declared it “lobster and beer night” now she is so I have to share. 😔
Beautiful moment in the CBD. At the tramstop at the top end of Collins st waiting for my tram. On the opposite tramstop a late middle aged gent in jeans and a band tshirt with fairy wings on his back - dancing to music only he could hear. And the son of a gun could dance pretty good. Felt like joining in, but was carrying too much shopping.
welcome back 🔋
The uprising has resumed
Sigh I think I’m about to get dressed and go to impulse-buy a PS5 coz the Spider-Man 2 bundle is on sale and I want it. I guess it’s not an impulse-buy considering I’ve thought about it for months but I didn’t plan on buying a PS5 today or even this year when I woke up this morning.
Let’s just call it a reward for having my apartment and car clean and my life more organised or something.
Lessgooooo
Hellooo! Shall I put the kettle on?
Woo! Spider Man 2 is probably my favourite game that came out this year.
Just finished the opening scene and that was friggin bonkers! They went HARD right off the bat! Great way to start a sequel… lets just get back into the action! I’ll give it a few hours and fire it up again later today. Running it in Fidelity and 120Hz mode is amazing! Pardon the pun.
You did it! Well done and enjoy the ride!
I gave little dog a kangaroo jerky stick and now he won’t leave me alone. I’m his best friend ever.
your first step to training little dog to hunt kangaroo for food in the post-apocalyptic world
Second step involves playing fetch with a bouncy ball
Oh I wouldn’t need to train him. He loves chasing things.
But the take down?
Oh shit yeah. He’d go for the ankles? first then straight for neck. The little shit can jump.
Well it turned into a lovely arvo. Cheers everybody. 🍺
🍻 TGIF
Finished binding the edges of my fave quilt, it was getting a bit frayed, and then washed it. More masks have been made. Made some scones for afternoon tea. Still heaps to do. 🥴
I love making quilts. Crochet, Tunisian crochet, knit, patchwork. I give them all away. Here’s one I made my daughter because she loves geography and flags and stuff.
And the back
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omg, that is so beautiful 💗
Thank you. All the material was given to me so it’s special.
I tripped over at work yesterday and I thought I’d hurt my wrist but the pain today is just below my elbow, so I’m off to the doctor and to hopefully get an X-ray. It’s my right arm and I’m right handed so that’s annoying and my arm is getting sorer and sorer. I’m lucky I filled in an incident form for the fall. I really hope it’s not serious but the pain is serious enough I’m worried it is.
In my expert opinion you poinged your sproingle and require two weeks paid vacation for oh&s
EDIT: I speak in jest but MAKE SURE you mention to the doctor this was a workplace accident and get the ball running on workcover.
You were injured at work, work pays for it.
I definitely will, I’m back at the doctor on Monday and will make sure he gets the ball rolling, I ended up booking a different doc at the same clinic because the one I saw on Friday truly didn’t seem to grasp my job and how much I need to use my arms and lift and how serious an arm injury could be for me.
1964 The House Of The Rising Sun The best karaoke song of all time. You bet I belted that one out. The door’s open so the neighbours got to hear. Lucky ducks.
P.S. Everytime I call for an intermission the man plays Metallica.
That song is one of the few I can comfortably sing and carry the tune.
I’m not sure if this was a number one hit but Shelter from the Storm - Bob Dylan, slaps like few others do
No Bob Dylan. I love Bob though and love that song. Any other guesses?
If its available, Do Wah Diddy is a super easy option. You only have to sing every second line (the crowd will enthusiastically fill in the rest), the vocal range required is really easy, and the song only goes for 2 minutes.
My last girlfriend before I met my wife was Filipina and well, the Karaoke stereotype in that community is real. I had to build a small repertoire of things I could be dragged out to sing.
What other songs did you deliver?
Ooohhh it’s been many years, let’s see how many I can remember.
I have a good speaking voice, but I’m not much of a singer. I can hold a tune ok, but my range is limited to an octave or so. It’s deep, think Nick Cave.
I picked Nick, as I can duet the Wild Roses well.
New York, New York.
Base part of Blue Moon as a duet.
Ice Ice Baby (yep, there was a time where I could do the rap).
Anything by Bing Crosby (White Christmas was my go-to).
