No judgement? Do you use strategies or meds or both? I’m curious.
For me both. But without my meds I’m pretty useless.
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I took up sim racing to help improve my focus. Every day I do 2 - 3 hours worth of laps, and I make it my goal to do consistent laps. Not necessary fast but just consistent. If I can stay within 0.5 - 1 second for x laps in a row, I count it as a win and I try to break that record the next day or at the very least meet the same number.
Helps with my memory retention too as poor memory is sometimes another side effect of ADHD from what I’m told
I lurk here because I’m scared of being diagnosed and what comes after, but I identify with this. I sim race too.
I feel so good after a long stint. Doing lap after lap is almost meditative. I struggle with focus in the middle/end of it but something about the repetitive-but-slightly-dynamic nature of it really eeks the focus out of me. I feel accomplished after completing a race.
Right? When I’m in a 30-minute race trying not to invalidate a single lap it just feels like this is the only thing going on in the world right now and it’s unlike how I am in real life. When I’m cooking food, my head is just everywhere – is the pan hot, is this ingredient ready, should I clean this while that’s cooking – but in a car on a track (virtually at least), my head has a single linear flow and my body follows.
I struggle in the middle/end of stints too, and typically when this happens I “reset” by silently muttering my next braking points, especially during a long straight. Hope that helps you to some extent and thanks for commenting despite being a lurker. Helps with not feeling alone
Medication, alarms, chore lists with reminders, project boards (jira @ work, notion @ home).
My wife and I keep EVERYTHING in notion. Our entire lives, pretty much any plan or thing we need to remember to do or communicate goes in that app.
I use other stuff on top of it, but notion has allowed us to split the mental load of managing our household much better than before. I have terrible memory, but I can no longer use it as an excuse. I’ve gone from “oops I forgot” to “oops I didn’t set a reminder, what do I need to do to prevent this in the future?”
It wouldn’t be exaggerating to say that the combination of process and home project management through it has saved my marriage. Oh, and I guess therapy helps. Find a good therapist if you can afford one.
You’re more organized that I am. Wow! Good for you! Glad it’s working!
I’d say that my wife is the organized one - she just makes it easy to take advantage of the organization and contribute content to it.
She sounds like a great partner for you! 😁
Both. But it also helps to have a supportive husband. Would recommend.
I wish I could use lists. If I decide something, then–according to my brain–it’s not a rule I strictly have to follow. Help lol 🫠
Of course our brains have to be shit roomates, as if life isn’t hard enough
I’ve tried medication, but unfortunately everything I tried had the side effect of pushing up my heartbeat to unhealthy levels, or causing anxiety issues. So currently unmedicated, although I miss the focus and motivation to get things done they gave me, the side-effects weren’t worth it.
I try using todo-lists. But having been diagnosed at 36 it’s so hard to break bad habits, especially during work, so I still often have days where I just jump between tasks. I’ve learned to accept that will happen and try to pay more attention to my to-do list again. Not getting frustrated helps a lot.
I’ve also taken up piano lessons, having to focus on playing a piece of music has improved my concentration quite a bit.
Oh that sucks. Try CBD for the Axiety. I’m NOT a doctor! LOL
Thanks for the suggestion. 👍🏻 It was bupropion that gave me those issues, in the end it didn’t really do enough for my symptoms to warrant that kind of experimentation. For now I’ll just try to cope as best as I can.
Has anyone tried nootropics and found it helpful? I’ve been trying some over the years (I’m not diagnosed but I suspect I have ADHD), and so far nothing has really improved my focus & attention.
I haven’t tried them but hear about them.
Seems like most of us are “list people”.
How do you all prevent the list from growing too large and just becoming another overwhelming thing?
I got a list that I purposefully set up to grow. It’s not a to-do list… It’s a “might do” list. When things get messy in my to-do list, I move those items to the might-do list.
Having 100 undone items on that list isn’t a shameful thing, it means I said “no” to all those items (either actively or passively) and I try to celebrate that.
Good question. I tend to try and keep the most important on one list and then try really hard to put the less important somewhere else. LOL
Still learning this lol. I have discovered by now that using meds is helpful but I can still wind uselessly spinning in a circle because I don’t know where to begin with my to-do list. I have a whiteboard for each day of the week and I write down things I mean to do for each day on it. Even if I don’t complete everything - which I usually don’t - it helps me keep track. I want to get a couple white boards for different reminders. Not so much that it gets overwhelming though. I use a big monthly calendar for writing down upcoming appts. It helps me if both are big enough to read from across the room and out in the open so I don’t forget to check them.
I use Habitica and Forest. I try to gamify everything. Also rewarding myself for staying on track with 10 to 30 minutes of video games. I find I like audiobooks and podcasts to be in the background when I’m studying. I also use the Calm app a lot when I’m working. I like the city and coffee shop soundscapes. I’ve listed to This American Life Cars 129 about 50 times while doing my literature review. I am working full time, my wife and I have a new baby and I am also getting my doctorate. Another key strategy is waking up early like 5 AM to do a self-care routine to start the day. I meditate and exercise as part of my Habitica habits. It helps me get focused and feel ready for the day. I never took any medication growing up although the doctor recommended it. My parents made me meditate every day for 30 minutes when I got home from school and on weekends. I was basically grounded until I did that. It helped a lot for me. Those are some of my strategies.
I also don’t know what I’d do without a to do list to check off and my Google calendar.
Also my Remarkable 2 Tablet has been a god send.
Man this thread isn’t one bit written by a person with ADHD. Is it? LOL
Meds and lists gang checking in.
Started Trintellix a couple months ago and has been working pretty well with no noted side effects, which is nice.
To clarify, are you using vortioxetine (Brintellix) for what exactly? Because it’s not an ADHD medication.
Edit: I’m also asking because I’m taking it as well, and I was curious about your experience.
Depression is what I was prescribed to it for. It is working well to manage that, which makes it easier for me to better tackle the ADHD.
I use both but I’m terrible at taking meds regularly (ha, the irony!).
For losing track of time during meetings/focus sessions, I use a Time Timer to visually see time passing by/showing how much time is left.
For reminders, I use Due on iOS (+ Apple Watch) as it continues to send reminders until you do the thing and check it off.
For to-do lists, I use both paper planning with a bullet journal-esque notation as well as a whiteboard for “temporary” planning, like creating a prioritization matrix, as it allows me to shift things around more easily.Can definitely second Time Timer, nothing else has worked nearly as well for monitoring time passing!
