Yet another simple question I’m surprised I haven’t asked yet, given my name.

Anyway, when it comes to kink (or otherwise, I don’t know what you vanilla types get up to at night. :P), would you classify yourself as a dominant, submissive or switch?

  • wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Yes.

    All my prior partners were submissive - which is fine, I love you all <3 - but sometimes I wanted to be the one struggling to breathe as a huge tiger length raped my muzzle, frankly (>////<). I’ve had little blips of playing with others who are switches and doms but it’s quite unusual and never in a relationship, just yiffing.

    A few years ago my fiancé left me - long story - and an old friend approached me about dating. I declined but told them it’s because I’m still emotionally in distress and trying to salvage the relationship, that it wasn’t a ‘I’m not interested ever’ no. He’s really sweet, almost to a fault, and I didn’t want to hurt him because I wasn’t in a good state of mind.

    Fast forward a bit (couple years) and he brings me into neos where he is relaxing with his master. We are just chatting and whatnot when he again poses a question, in the most nonchalant way: “so, want to be my pet?” - after much blushing and squirming, I accepted.

    Over the past couple years I’ve learned that I really enjoy a wide spectrum of things, relating to dom/sub and top/bottom, at least on a mental/rp level (long distance). He has leaned into my enjoyment of orgasm control and denial, I’ve been (willingly) coerced into being vored, and broader things like figuring out I’m (at least irl) demisexual, that I really really really really like being a service top, depending on my mood and who it is I like pushing away and letting others take control, that I really like ‘forcing’ subs to top/dom me (a certain adorable fennec being ordered to fuck my muzzle, though not cum until I signal [if I signal~], is just chefs kiss)… while I gently push my master into things I want to do with him like public play, being at all aggressive (again, sweet basically to a fault), and even extremes like rape-play (I trust him a lot and have known him a long time). We have discussed briefly the idea of adding another link to the chain, by bringing another (sub) into our weird situation for my, uh, strong sex drive, too.

    Present-day, I’m the pet of a dragon who has a boyfriend as well as a master himself. Far and away I have the strongest sex drive. But the headspace - from loving sucking his cock and getting headrubs when I get the chance, to just pawing off thinking about being owned and desired (something my ex was… lacking in communicating), and that not fading with my irl struggles (I’m disabled), made me fall in love with someone that I’ve known for forever but never saw myself feeling like that towards them. The fact that I don’t have to see someone (immediately) as ‘attractive’ to want them through other traits that I didn’t notice I was seeking out before, was an interesting realization, and I’m glad I said ‘yes’ when he asked the question of if I wanted to be his pet, as (among other obvious things) I might still have not made that realization otherwise.

    So tl;dr I’m all over the map but if you want a hung hybrid wolf-tiger-fox that loves to both ravage your holes as well as whimper and plead for release (and many, many more things~), yes hi hello. Because sexuality isn’t a multiple choice choose-one question but actually a blank page waiting to be filled.

    (as is this long-form answer, sorry xP)