I have, mostly, always been top. I am told I am good to my partners and I am sure to get them off before I am done (with few explainable exceptions}. I am also told I am a bit large of junk for some of them and I can get a little aggressive during sex. I am always worried that I could be doing better, I feel like there are some expectations of a bottom that tops can’t understand. Does anyone have anything they always wanted a top to know but never told him?
We’d make a great team: when I bottom I’m concerned that the top feels they’re being too greedy or selfish (no such thing for me at least) and I wonder if I should be acting more aggressively – or more passively.
Now just me: I’ve been told by tops who prefer loose that I’m too tight and by other tops who prefer tight that I’m too loose. No idea.
That is something I wonder about. Is my partner in their moment or worried about mine. If I get too deep in it it can end up and double empathy and cause a catastrophe. I have always found a more vocal/expressive partner helpful not to mention hot as hell 🥵
Sometimes sex with new people is better than with old reliables specifically because I’m unable to try to get into the heads of new people. Catastrophe is right.
If I yell “fuck me” and “keep doing that” and “I get off when you’re losing yourself, so keep going, buddy”, you down to bang me sometime?