Unsure if I’m nonbinary (who cares I guess, gender is made up), but it was incredibly useful for me to inch along the gender spectrum and experiment at my own pace rather than feel forced to make a sudden jump.
My experience involved months of roleplaying in chat rooms in the late 90’s and early 00’s, experimenting with how I felt about various ways of being and being perceived. I learned that I was most myself when seen as the weird sort of inbetween gender that answers “Yes” when someone asks if I’m a boy or a girl, but enbies were almost entirely unknown back then so being myself felt more like a fantasy than a realistic goal.
Unsure if I’m nonbinary (who cares I guess, gender is made up), but it was incredibly useful for me to inch along the gender spectrum and experiment at my own pace rather than feel forced to make a sudden jump.
That’s entirely valid!
My experience involved months of roleplaying in chat rooms in the late 90’s and early 00’s, experimenting with how I felt about various ways of being and being perceived. I learned that I was most myself when seen as the weird sort of inbetween gender that answers “Yes” when someone asks if I’m a boy or a girl, but enbies were almost entirely unknown back then so being myself felt more like a fantasy than a realistic goal.