• AppleTea@lemmy.zip
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    6 months ago
    *Kinda hard to have an equal discussion when being a woman entails being sexually harassed and occasionally assaulted by a bunch of men, mostly ones you barely know or don’t know at all, on a regular basis before you even hit puberty.*
    

    genuine question, how do you expect it to get any better if you aren’t being civil?

    The decision matrix here isn’t [civil engagement ||or|| uncivil engagement], but rather:

    [civil engagement and incur non-zero risk of uncivil retaliation ||or|| do not engage]

    Non-participation is the safer option, broadly speaking. If your speaking with a stranger, it’s better to let a minor slight slide, than to engage civilly. As you get to know someone better, as you become more familiar with conditions, this chart becomes a secondary consideration or even unnecessary. But with strangers, you never know if you’re dealing with an outlier.

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      6 months ago

      Person wrote a whole, nuanced, and detailed response outlining the various communications issues and such (including already addressing your robotic interpretation), and that’s all you contribute?