Digital artist who infrequently can scrape enough energy to create stuff. I like to escape with art and draw cute anthros.

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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • Foxfireto196@lemmy.blahaj.zonePro-rule
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    14 days ago

    I’m not sure, but you could always make a metaphor. Might I suggest the word sloughing, which is generally used to mean the shedding of dead tissue? Like say, “no matter how hot you work the iron to slough its form-”. Though then again, might be a big ask for a transphobe to use a rhetorical device like that.







  • FoxfireOPtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldImportant
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    21 days ago

    It feels like a toss up to me as well, but I’m going to try my damnedest. I crossed the 24hr mark because I wasn’t exactly planning to do this, but now I feel weirdly invested. We got the same clock, 6 hours to go!

    Update: Made it!


  • Was anticipating the New Years Eve thread, but as I don’t see it I’ll leave a little message here. Farewell Yiffit, it’s been a pleasure. While it sucks to lose a furry instance, I thank you for the time you gave for the cause of both community and software freedom. Self hosting something like this is often a demanding and thankless task, and because of your efforts, many critters had a home here. When dealing with many small, independent nodes, things don’t usually last forever. The great thing about those many nodes though is we’re still here, and I know I’ve seen some residents already make their next stop to our little node at pawb.social! Pawb isn’t my first instance, and I’m sure it won’t be my last if I use Lemmy for long enough, but I can’t thank all of you enough for what you selflessly bring to the table every day that you keep doing it.

    Every server host, every comment, every piece of artwork, we’re all in this together to make our communities a little better. To make things feel a little more like home. Sometimes we run out of steam—and that’s okay—we still made memories along the way.




  • FoxfireOPtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldImportant
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    22 days ago

    To our fallen soldiers, know that Luigi appreciates your resistance against adversity. Luigi respects your contributions to incremental change. Luigi knows perfect is the enemy of good, and just how much we need good right now. Do not feel shame in failure, but solace in knowing you tried in earnest.





  • If you just mean your relatives, it’s important to know that what constitutes ‘young’ changes as you age. As someone in their 30s now, early 20s and below feels young to me personally. If your relatives are much older than you, especially if they saw you growing up, it’s likely you’ll seem young to them forever. That isn’t to say you should be infantilized your whole life, but just that it stems from differences in perception. If you feel like you’re being treated lesser than other adults, try to tactfully explain how you feel. Maybe you’re feeling excluded and that hurts, or perhaps being called certain things is belittling to you. Ultimately though, the most important thing is that tact, because it’s very likely not malicious, your relatives likely aren’t trying to make you feel small or invalidated.

    As for anyone else in the street, or perhaps online, there’s usually something that makes people naturally assume youth. I don’t know what you look like obviously, but online you typically have very little information to work with. Usually just the words that are spoken, and maybe an avatar to go along with it. A number of people have pointed out your typing style already. I won’t belabor the point, but I will say first impressions are extremely quick to make, and quite influential. I personally try to talk to anyone with tact and just ‘as a person’, but it’s something I feel doesn’t come naturally. I really only ended up doing it because I spent a long time in moderation type roles, having to mediate issues with people and events.

    Tl;Dr: It sucks, but people probably aren’t doing it to hurt you. Talk patiently to them, also type more formally.