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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • It kinda is the same. It’s grief. Just dredged up some shit I didn’t want to have to process, so I dumped it on y’all, in my case. Didn’t sleep a wink, but I’m feeling a little better. Can’t fuck up my schedule so I’m going to check my groundhog traps when it gets light and work on the kid’s 3D printer.

    Everybody is different in processing grief. I tend to crawl off like a cat and be solitary in it in person. I text and write about it to strangers, it helps me get the poison out and doesn’t hurt anyone.

    We have a little cat named Lulu. She’s a special cat, deadliest mouser, feral but loving personality. Only ever had one other like her. We plan to get a sample taken and stored, if we can afford it, we’ll get her cloned. At least that’s what we tell ourselves. Don’t want to think about that. I’ll pay cat tax but only if you ask. Can I see your Sphynx?

    Also, that’s fucked up by your in-laws. You shouldn’t outsource the decision unless it’s the vet telling you. And recently after y’all had loss? Who’s the parent in this? I’m judging people I don’t know but that doesn’t sound ethical at all.




  • That’s been my experience with my trans homies. As long as you try and get the pronouns right, little slips ain’t a big deal. They usually seem shocked that a redneck like me would even make the effort. Which is real fucken sad cause I figure that means they deal with it maliciously, more often than not, from people that look and talk like me.

    Mr. Rogers would have something to say about not treating people like they want to be treated. If Mr. Rogers would be disappointed in the way you treat others, you’re fucking up and should feel bad.

    I have a dumb tongue and really struggle with non-english names, it’s the same thing, normal people don’t care as long you make an effort.



  • Oh, that whole otherkin thing is absolutely a symptom of mental illness or maladjusment. I’m being blunt, and I expect you will find this insulting. I have no intent to insult or demean.

    If you’re being genuine, you should seek help. I’ve seen it a fair amount, the same with DID self diagnosis. If you think those things are real, you are likely experiencing a personality disorder or struggling with some other mental illness.

    While there are plenty of voices online that will tell you that you are this way and it’s okay, it isn’t. It can be socially isolating and impact your life in negative ways. Not trying to be disrespectful. Gender dysphoria and transgenderism/non-binary have scientific backing. Otherkin and DID seem to be an outgrowth of the kink and autistic communities, seems to be a very infectious thing. The otherkin thing came to my attention about 15 years ago and DID popped up maybe 6-7 years ago.

    Seems to be a metastasis of otherness into a maladaptive identity pathology. Personally, I don’t think I’ve ever seen it in anyone who isn’t on the spectrum.

    I generally excuse myself from an in-person conversation when someone mentions they are kin or DID. It seems to be a treatment resistant pathology and latches on similar to bad religion. It is self reinforcing and isolating.

    Again, I’m saying this with respect and care as an active participant of the kink/queer/leather community. I’m all about some pups, D/s relationship dynamics, but I also try and stick to science. Labels serve us, we are not our labels. Please seek counseling if you haven’t already.




  • No worries. Wasn’t trying to be a dick. Always up for learning something new about interesting things.

    I grew up around firearms. Use a .22 revolver as part of varmint management on my little farm. It’s a tool not a fetish. (I like all sorts of tools, including firearms.) Lots of myths about guns, for instance: they don’t actually increase the size of your penis.