A couple years ago at a bar I was talking to a guy, and he mentioned he’d started playing DND. I went, “oh cool. Which edition?”
He said, “what?”. He didn’t know there were other editions. He didn’t know there were other RPGs. I think about this a lot and try to remember a lot of people aren’t really deep in the hobby. They show up once a week to play a game with their friends, and that’s about where it stops. Which is fine. Totally valid way to spend your leisure time. But very different than where I went.
It really bugs me that “divisive” is used as the bad word. There are so many reasons for something to be “divisive”.
It’s like saying “don’t make people angry” but treating “punched someone in the face” and “a man held hands with his husband” as the same. They both made someone angry so they’re both bad!!
If people are divided on a topic you should figure out why, what’s true and what’s false and in between, and resolve it. Don’t just sweep it under the rug as a thing you’re not allowed to talk about.