• Count Regal Inkwell
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    3 months ago

    If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You’ll be happy you did.

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        Or you could just be comparing yourself to the unreasonably high standards set by archaic cultural norms.

        Basically if you’re a teenager and think you’re failing at life: No, you aren’t, just give yourself some more time to figure things out.

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          Isn’t ‘failing at life’ the normal teenage feeling? It sucks, but it will pass.

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          Exactly, just because your parents or grandparents were married and had good jobs at 18 and bought a house with cash at 20 while having their 3rd child. That’s not normal anymore. Do your best with what you have, and repeat to yourself “I’m not responsible for the economy. Things don’t work the same way they did 20 or 40 years ago.”

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      Important note: just because at some point you felt attraction to people of opposite sex, doesn’t automatically disqualify you from LGBTQ

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      I’m not feeling that I have failed but that the whole model of gender and sexually are flawed. So, in my opinion, society has failed me.

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      Citation on that? I’m sure it’s possible, but weirdly-specific percentages with no citation make me suspicious.

      In in my, it was just a lot of factors of upbringing and had really weird ideals and probably a dash of neurodivergence that combined to give me this feeling. Getting out of the environment I was in, getting some mental help, etc. solved that for me.