• Mossy Feathers (They/Them)
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    332 months ago

    There’s also asexuality. Love your partner but don’t wanna fuck 'em? Get a divorce you deviant! Because apparently sex is required for a happy marriage and if you don’t have sex because you’re not interested in it, then you’re obviously a pervert or a prude who deserves to be unloved.

    • @MelastSB@sh.itjust.works
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      222 months ago

      Unless you’re both asexual, or are open to the sexual one fucking around, you probably should get a divorce though

      • Mossy Feathers (They/Them)
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        2 months ago

        Unless you’re both asexual, or are open to the sexual one fucking around,

        Yeah, but then you get back to the person in OP’s post telling people to get a divorce regardless. My point is that you can have a happy marriage and be poly and/or ace.

        Edit: Also, I’d think that issue would come up long before marriage and would likely be solved by that point.

      • @eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        12 months ago

        Ironically this is one of those things that’s easier to deal with in a poly context - your partner isn’t your one and only so if they’re ace and you’re not, you’re allowed to get those needs met elsewhere and still have a loving romantic relationship with them.

      • Mossy Feathers (They/Them)
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        42 months ago

        One would hope that you’d solve issues like that before getting married. Whether that means an open marriage, having a partner who’s also ace, finding ways to fulfill your partners needs without having sex yourself, etc.

        You’re not wrong, but I think most married couples that involve someone who’s ace would have that problem solved by the time they get to marriage.

        • @emptiestplace@lemmy.ml
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          12 months ago

          Yeah.

          I think “love your partner, but don’t wanna fuck 'em” implies you’ve already failed in this regard.

      • SuiXi3D
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        32 months ago

        Why isn’t the partner doing the same in that situation?