(Content warning, discussions of SA and misogyny, mods I might mention politics a bit but I hope this can be taken outside the context of politics and understood as a discussion of basic human decency)

We all know how awful Reddit was when a user mentioned their gender. Immediate harassment, DMs, etc. It’s probably improved over the years? But still awful.

Until recently, Lemmy was the most progressive and supportive of basic human dignity of communities I had ever followed. I have always known this was a majority male platform, but I have been relatively pleased to see that positive expressions of masculinity have won out.

All of that changed with the recent “bear vs man” debacle. I saw women get shouted down just for expressing their stories of being sexually abused, repeatedly harassed, dogpiled, and brigaded with downvotes. Some of them held their ground, for which I am proud of them, but others I saw driven to delete their entire accounts, presumably not to return.

And I get it. The bear thing is controversial; we can all agree on this. But that should never have resulted in this level of toxicity!

I am hoping by making this post I can kind of bring awareness to this weakness, so that we can learn and grow as a community. We need to hold one another accountable for this, or the gender gap on this site is just going to get worse.

  • yuri
    55·
    6 months ago

    Men are not a marginalized group, neither historically nor currently.

      • yuri
        48·
        6 months ago

        So since we can agree that men are not a marginalized group, we can agree that it’s an invalid comparison.

        Hatred against Jewish people is a real thing, hatred against men is mostly confined to strawmen that live in the heads of angry men.

          • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
            52·
            6 months ago

            you can’t argue with people who are convinced that ‘minority’ status grants them a moral superiority, and therefore their attacks on a non-minority group are justified.

            this is the same reason right-wingers are obsessed with pedos. by fighting the ‘ultimate evil’ everything they do is automatically justified.

          • yuri
            36·
            6 months ago

            I’m saying something very simple. If you seriously can’t understand it then I can’t help you.

            You know how a privileged white person couldn’t point at some random inconvenience and say “This is just like what slavery was like for black people”? That’s the kind of comparison you’re defending here.