I couldn’t consider abortion or adoption, but the weird thing is I also couldn’t consider having a baby. I never decided; I never chose. Somewhere in there it became more likely that I was having a baby, but that didn’t make it any more real to me.

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    I never decided; I never chose.

    Yes, you did, here:

    When we had sex, we couldn’t use condoms, because having them around would have been admitting an intent to sin or an expectation of fallibility

    Hope that helped.
    It’s hard for me to find empathy for people spouting nonsense like that. Actions have consequences, ignoring to acknowledge them doesn’t make them disappear.

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        There’s a difference between saying, “I didn’t trip” and “I tripped because I didn’t see the object someone camouflaged.”

        Seems like she’s saying she didn’t trip.

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      Don’t do this…this is what right wingers do and they say well she should have kept her legs closed.

      You’re right that she chose but it wasn’t when she decided to have sex it was when she decided NOT to have an abortion.

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        Oh no, I don’t blame her for that.
        I blame her for not using contraceptives, not getting abortion. I ridicule her for not not owning her mistakes. She did choose multiple times even. I blame society for brainwashing people with religion and making braindead situations like this a reality.