I’ve figured out Iwas trans around a year ago. I’ve more accepted it 6-8 months ago, and fully embraced the identity a few months ago.

I feel like I’m able to see myself as a woman more often(presenting or not; probably the longer hair) but I find it hard to consciously switch names and pronouns since I feel like I still very much present masc¿and don’t look so femme, even if I want to.

It’s like, it feels somewhat in-genuine, you know? Deep, deep down, I want to be her, but also I don’t want the confrontation of, “you don’t look like a ‘her’.”

I just need some advice/encouragement. My therapist has asked multiple times if they should switch name/pronouns, but it’s so difficult face-to-face and not socially out.

Help plz?

Edit: I’m not sure how this ended up in the meme community 😅 I posted it late at night, but I thought I got /c/mtf instead

  • KeriKitty (They(/It))
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    82 months ago

    I’ve hatched twice now and it’s like this for me too: it’s been quite important for me to try things out and feel how they feel rather than expecting to figure out my life and self “hands-off” and then implement that once done. Sometimes parts of a presentation or of reactions to it aren’t clear until they’re felt and one may not necessarily know whether those parts will be pleasant or problems until then. That is, maybe you really don’t know how it’ll feel until you just jump in and try, give yourself some time to break up some things holding you back, and process the whole reality of it all at once.

    Big note: it’s okay to be wrong. A lot of people act like it isn’t, like everyone’s supposed to full-on know without ever thinking about it or having to learn anything, but they’re dead wrong and they’re probably lying to themselves just to keep from having to consider that maybe identity isn’t as simple and easy as they want it to be, or want to pretend that it is.

    • @Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      32 months ago

      That all makes perfect sense when it’s spelled out 😅 I think I am moving in a similar direction about “just see how it feel” I get so stuck in the head space where I have to figure out all I can before I make a move, and my therapist has been trying to get me out of that for a while, because it doesn’t work like that 😂