For me there’s a bit of a network effect where the polycule sprawls out into the distance. Partners have partners who have partners.
But for disconnected folks, it’s mostly been tinder (yuck), and a local meetup.
(Also this might be the first post? That or nothing federated yet)
With feeld, as a guy who doesn’t date guys, I get about one match every 3 months. About 80% of them are immediate duds. 10% turn into dates like regular. And the last 10% immediately go to “let me show you my tits”.
It has been a weird experience.
The two successful dates I got from there were people that were very proficient as polyamory, though.