• @Taako_Tuesday@lemmy.ca
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    311 year ago

    I’ve got a nonbinary friend who presents somewhat feminine, and they always say that anyone who finds them attractive is gay by default. So I guess what I’m saying is I’m not totally straight

    • @crystal@feddit.de
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      101 year ago

      Wouldn’t finding an nb person attractive be hetero attraction? Since they’re of a different gender?

      • @Taako_Tuesday@lemmy.ca
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        121 year ago

        I guess it depends how you define it, i feel like most people define hetero as being exclusively attracted to people of the opposite sex than you

        • @Squirrel@thelemmy.club
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          61 year ago

          They’re using the (Greek-derived) scientific definition of “hetero” (i.e. different) vs “homo” (i.e. same). By those definitions, any cisgender + non-binary pairing would technically be heterosexual.

          • @cnnrduncan@beehaw.org
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            1 year ago

            Yeah I define myself as heterosexual cos I’m not attracted to people of the same gender as me. I’m not non-binary so being attracted to/sleeping with an enby person is not gay, at least according to how I define my own sexuality.

  • @Andiloor@sh.itjust.works
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    161 year ago

    I’m a gay guy so I’ll answer this from that perspective: moreso men? I’m attracted to guys along with the occasional non-binary person or very butch lesbian (i.e. my attraction to them felt identical to how I’m attracted to men). Sometimes I’m attracted to a masc guy, sometimes it’s a fem guy. Sometimes it’s neither. I’ve been into every body type except bears (though including cubs).

    Basically: if my social perception of you is that of a man despite your own gender identity, then I might be attracted to you. I apologize if my horniness assumes your gender

      • Aesthesiaphilia
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        111 year ago

        I always figured straight or gay is related to sex, not gender. So a pre-transition trans man or a post-transition trans woman would count

      • Aesthesiaphilia
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        211 year ago

        pre-transition? Sure

        I don’t like dicks though

        And it would probably be difficult with me going “I love your boobs” and they’re always like “I hate my boobs”

        • Lexi Sneptaur
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          51 year ago

          That’s so strange. You’re just attracted to people’s body parts?

          • Aesthesiaphilia
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            211 year ago

            That’s how it works for the vast majority of people.

            Not like personality doesn’t play a role. But certain body part combinations are a requirement.

              • @Tavarin@lemmy.world
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                61 year ago

                Not really, it’s pretty key to the propagation of the species to find certain genitals and sexual traits attractive. Those that don’t notice them or care about them are outliers in humanity.

                • Lexi Sneptaur
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                  51 year ago

                  I’m asexual so this is very alien to me. I generally associate genitals with violence because of past trauma

          • @SirElliott@beehaw.org
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            Is their preference really any more arbitrary than the preferences sapiosexuals or demisexuals have? It sounds like they probably have other traits that may make someone more or less attractive, they just have a minimum requirement for a certain body form for them to begin having attraction. That isn’t so different when compared to a sapiosexual who requires a high intellect before they can begin being more or less attracted based on other traits.

            TL;DR: All preferences are weird, no need to call anyone out on their specific ones :)

            • Lexi Sneptaur
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              71 year ago

              I come from the planet of the ace, where nobody has sex and the masturbation doesn’t matter

  • Ath47
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    51 year ago

    Both, and only both. Never just one or the other.