It seems there’s a lot of issues with planning an orgy, especially if you don’t know all the participants.

A lot of people opt out the last 24 hrs, several are either nervous or creepy, and many (especially ciswomen) seem to feel unsafe.

I’m thinking a lot of this is due to orgies being poorly planned and hosted.

What are your best tips for a good orgy? What do you appreciate at one?

  • deezcashews@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    1 day ago
    • Gatorade
    • Condoms
    • Wet wipes
    • Towels
    • Hand sanitizer
    • Lube
    • Candles
    • Puppy blankets
    • A good playlist
    • A nice charcuterie board
    • Ice packs
    • Heating pads
    • Karate lessons
    • Mouthwash
    • Dental floss
    • Viagra
    • A referee
    • Steel chairs and ladders
    • Rope
    • scarabine@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
      7·
      1 day ago
      • Karate lessons
      • Steel chairs and ladders

      For a second there I thought you didn’t know what you were talking about. Everyone always forgets these!

    • Mickey7@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      1 day ago

      “Karate lessons” - LOL

      Orgies are too complicated. Too many people feel left out of the fun if they are not getting fucked. Spouse Swapping is easier with only 4 people needed to reach agreement on pre conditions.

  • Machinist@lemmy.worldEnglish
    12·
    1 day ago

    No single men allowed. (Unless you’re holding a gangbang or a gay orgy.) Thirsty dudes will overwhelm your orgy. In general, you need to be a hetero couple, lesbian couple, or single woman to get into the swing scene. If you’re a gay man, and you have trouble finding gay orgies, there is probably something socially or physically bad wrong with you.

    It’s a stereotype, but gay guys know how to party and don’t fuck around about fucking around.

    See if there is a local swingers group on FetLife.

    The best orgies just kind of spontaneously happen. You usually have to have a close knit core of friends. After parties for kink events and such.

    Sharing Ecstasy/MDMA with close friends can make one happen.

    Oh, and trim your fingernails.

  • wildcardology@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 day ago

    STD test results for at least 2 weeks on the day of the event. Should be number 1. You can’t have fun if you’re worried about STDs.