So, I actually have thoughts about this. A while back, I went to a night club that had kink/sex positive themes and someone there wore a sign/note that said “while I’m wearing this note, you can: GROPE ME WITHOUT ASKING”. I got talking to this person in the smoking area and I asked her something along the lines of “doesn’t it feel degrading or scary?”

She explained that in the context of this nightclub where it was a very consent aware environment, she was able to enjoy the taboo aspects of the yielding of some rights to her own body — i.e. she felt safe in knowing that if she wanted a break from things, or to stop the “experiment” early, she needed only to take the sign off, or even tear it (as it was only paper).

She said that this ended up being one of the most powerful aspects of things for her: to borrow wording from the OP, she said it was liberating to not have to think proactively about her own desires, but to bounce around like a sexy pinball; to not have to try so hard to anticipate other people’s desires, instead being able to ask “are my desires currently aligned with the person I’m interacting with?” as and when it came up. Apparently most of the time, that meant continuing dancing as people were actively feeling her up.

(The most grim aspect of the conversation was when she said that even wearing a sign like that, she was groped less than what she would be in a regular night club. )

Ngl, I got the auntie anne’s naturally knotty collar and have just been wearing it around the house. Don’t really do petplay cause I’m extremely isolated and lonely and without someone to interact with I just can’t feel the point (same with life in general) but it’s been fun

I’m wearing my collar but I’m off the leash >:)

Ooof thanks for calling me out like this. But I like wearing my rubber posture collar!

Modern Capitalism in a nutshell.