Transphobia doesn’t have to be intentional to still be transphobia. It also doesn’t have to be intentional to hurt someone or cause harm indirectly. The fact that people think gatekeeping gender is okay or that xenogenders are “hurting real trans people” is already harmful in and of itself.
Pug and his associates were told this but they didn’t take the hint or look at themselves. They just decided that trans and queer people in the current day are too sensitive. And they kept going. So we really shouldn’t excuse them or say they weren’t being transphobic, they were. Whether or not they meant it going in.
It’s like if someone claimed to be an ally to those hurt by racism, said that “Well I don’t understand the idea of Chicanos and I don’t really see why I should respect them when one was rude to someone else months ago.”
And then other people go "Hey white dude, you’re showing your blind spots. You can do better.*
And then the white dude just goes “Why should I have to improve? I’m an anti-racist!”
PugJesus is a cis male who thinks because he uses she/her on a trans woman he’s an ally. He’s not when he’ll gladly toss aside things because someone was rude to someone else online.
Exactly. A person like that isn’t a real ally even if they call themselves one. They need to actually support people to be an ally, and that also means checking yourself when people call you out, not just saying that you’re an ally and don’t need to check yourself.
PugJesus was never an Ally honestly and the fact that him and his asshole friends decided to open up whining threads on !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com instead of checking themselves just goes to show that.
You can be declare yourself to be an ally, or anti-“bad thing”. The people of those groups decide, not you.
“I’m a stamp collector, I just own zero stamps, I don’t listen to anyone who says I should collect stamps, and I say everyone who calls me a false stamp collector is actually hurting the stamp collecting community.”
Check the mod and post history of everyone saying Blahaj is a dictatorship or is supporting attack helicopter shit. Every one gatekeeps or says horrid shit.
Meanwhile I’ve never been called transphobic. Or racist. Or sexist. Because I don’t go “I’m actually I’m a true ally you stupid idiot, listen to the guy who isn’t part of your group and obey my orders or you’re the true bigot!”
Fuck I typed it wrong. That’s embarassing, this is why we need that stupid auto markdown thing removed because I can’t use it or it links the community wrong and I have to type it out manually to avoid it being a hard link to the original version
@dessalines@lemmy.ml@nutomic@lemmy.ml Please make the autocorrect for communities stop filling in a Markdown link like this [!lemmy@lemmy.ml](https://lemmy.ml/c/lemmy) and just have it autocorrect to the correct annotation like this !lemmy@lemmy.ml. We don’t need it to insert Markdown links like that anymore because the software does it automatically.
I don’t know if I or someone else already made an issue for it but I think it’s also good to show it causing problems on the field too.
Transphobia doesn’t have to be intentional to still be transphobia. It also doesn’t have to be intentional to hurt someone or cause harm indirectly. The fact that people think gatekeeping gender is okay or that xenogenders are “hurting real trans people” is already harmful in and of itself.
Pug and his associates were told this but they didn’t take the hint or look at themselves. They just decided that trans and queer people in the current day are too sensitive. And they kept going. So we really shouldn’t excuse them or say they weren’t being transphobic, they were. Whether or not they meant it going in.
It’s like if someone claimed to be an ally to those hurt by racism, said that “Well I don’t understand the idea of Chicanos and I don’t really see why I should respect them when one was rude to someone else months ago.”
And then other people go "Hey white dude, you’re showing your blind spots. You can do better.*
And then the white dude just goes “Why should I have to improve? I’m an anti-racist!”
PugJesus is a cis male who thinks because he uses she/her on a trans woman he’s an ally. He’s not when he’ll gladly toss aside things because someone was rude to someone else online.
Exactly. A person like that isn’t a real ally even if they call themselves one. They need to actually support people to be an ally, and that also means checking yourself when people call you out, not just saying that you’re an ally and don’t need to check yourself.
PugJesus was never an Ally honestly and the fact that him and his asshole friends decided to open up whining threads on !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com instead of checking themselves just goes to show that.
Exactly.
You can be declare yourself to be an ally, or anti-“bad thing”. The people of those groups decide, not you.
“I’m a stamp collector, I just own zero stamps, I don’t listen to anyone who says I should collect stamps, and I say everyone who calls me a false stamp collector is actually hurting the stamp collecting community.”
Check the mod and post history of everyone saying Blahaj is a dictatorship or is supporting attack helicopter shit. Every one gatekeeps or says horrid shit.
Meanwhile I’ve never been called transphobic. Or racist. Or sexist. Because I don’t go “I’m actually I’m a true ally you stupid idiot, listen to the guy who isn’t part of your group and obey my orders or you’re the true bigot!”
Yeah most of them have atrocious moderation history and equally nasty comment history.
Like certain members who claim blahaj is a dictatorship where you can’t descent.
Pretty sure its !yepowertrippinbastards@lemmy.dbzer0.com, not on blahaj.
Fuck I typed it wrong. That’s embarassing, this is why we need that stupid auto markdown thing removed because I can’t use it or it links the community wrong and I have to type it out manually to avoid it being a hard link to the original version
@dessalines@lemmy.ml @nutomic@lemmy.ml Please make the autocorrect for communities stop filling in a Markdown link like this
[!lemmy@lemmy.ml](https://lemmy.ml/c/lemmy)and just have it autocorrect to the correct annotation like this !lemmy@lemmy.ml. We don’t need it to insert Markdown links like that anymore because the software does it automatically. I don’t know if I or someone else already made an issue for it but I think it’s also good to show it causing problems on the field too.Oh shit, i did the same thing.
This is absolutely fair and I have no pushback on your position at all. Thank you for your personal insight. :)