• eronth@lemmy.world
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      Yeah, they are lucky to have me. Instant access to me via phonecall is not one of the reasons, but that’s fine because they don’t need instant access via phonecall.

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      My friends and family know not to call me unless somebody is dead or dying. It’s worked out pretty well so far

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      Usually friends and family actually care about respecting the wishes of the person they’re trying to contact. That concept might be unfamiliar to you.

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        Nah you’re 100% in the wrong here, and it’s wild that you bring up respect, as if this attitude and behavior isn’t incredibly disrespectful. Calling someone is literally not disrespectful. What the fuck is wrong with people

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          Not a single person in my life has ever had an issue with the fact that i prefer to be texted and reserve phone calls for more immediate issues. My time belongs to me and no one else so I have no obligation to answer people, and text is faster to parse for me and always has a protocol available if I need it later.

          Calling someone isn’t disrespectful. Calling someone that has made it clear they do not want to be called except for emergencies is. In my case I’d just mute all calls from them after it happens the second time.

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          Isn’t it? On a cell phone it demands that I drop what I’m doing at a moment’s notice and respond to your inquiry. Unless it is something time-sensitive, the call probably should have been scheduled or a text message would have served the purpose without demanding an instant response

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            Yeah its like walking into a room without knocking, while im talking to someone and just screaming at the top of your lungs: “WE NEED TO TALK RIGHT NOW”

            If you did that irl without a very good reason i would slap you.

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              The phone rings, that’s the knock. You can hang up for many reasons. Maybe it’s the culture of 100% availability that’s wrong, and not phoning.

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                then you have say something along the lines of “sorry about that” and they are obligated to respond along the lines of “don’t worry about it”, then here is where I forget what the topic was with both people because my deteriorating mind does nothing but fail me these days.

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            Phone rings

            “Hi, do you have time for the call now?”

            “No, Im busy right now, I will call you back.”

            Where disrespectfull?

            Way faster then text!

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              Phone rings

              I’m doing the dishes and my hands are wet

              I’m sitting on the toilet

              I’m in an online game

              I just got the baby to sleep

              I’m pipetting a solution

              I’m with a customer

              My hands are covered in engine grease

              I’m meditating

              I’m on my bicycle

              I have gloves on

              I’m carrying heavy furniture

              I’m driving

              I’m swimming at the pool

              I’m in the middle of a set

              I’m trying to put out a grease fire on the stove

              Sure, I can ignore the phone, but it’s loud and distracting.

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            Right? IMO it’s rude to just call someone out of the blue and expect that they’ll be able to drop everything to chat with you.

            Unfortunately, my mom loves to call unannounced, and because my parents are getting older I feel the need to answer in case something’s wrong.