I’m gonna get real with you folks, we’ve had way too many of these posts recently. I’ve been reflecting on this topic a lot the past few days. For me personally, I couldn’t care less about my gender identity. But just because that’s true for me, doesn’t make that true for everyone.

The beauty of the fediverse is that if you don’t like the way a particular instance or community is moderated you can simply choose another to hang out on, or create your own.

Blajah has made it pretty clear by now they will ban anyone who argues against the validity of xenogenders, in order to create a safe space for those folks. That’s fair enough imo.

Safe spaces should be respected, and Blajah’s admins/mods do not deserve abuse for creating and maintaining those spaces.

I can completely understand why Blajah users don’t want to have to constantly argue with external users about the validity of their chosen identities. Bans are one way Blajah has decided to manage that problem so that their users can experience lemmy in relative peace and safety. While it is a blunt tool and I have my reservations about preemptive bans, there are not many other options for @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone, other than defederation from most instances. That would be a terrible outcome for the fediverse as a whole.

In order to help Blajah to maintain their safe space, I would like to propose, if @db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com agrees and community sentiment is positive:

  • that we no longer accept posts about this topic in this community; and
  • we also remove previous posts on this topic from the community.

That’s all folks, have at 'er.

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    real af

    Oh cool, so you weren’t one of the people saying everyone who left 196 was a transphobe?

    Oh, wait, you’re literally one of the people who fucking started this.

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        So you think the idea of leaving this all behind is real, but you still love bringing it up too much, unprovoked, to be ‘real’.

        Okay.

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            learn to take a joke idk

            “ha ha I was just joking” is your go-to every time you get called out.

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              it’s my go to every time i was making a joke that went over your head, akshually

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                it’s my go to every time i was making a joke that went over your head, akshually

                lmao.

                Tone doesn’t paper over the utter disingenuity of all your arguments.

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      jokes aside, i have been consistently defending you on blahaj for months explicitly that i don’t think you’re a transphobe and moreso just a bad ally. i get some pushback but i think my points get heard. :)

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        jokes aside, i have been consistently defending you on blahaj for months explicitly that i don’t think you’re a transphobe and moreso just a bad ally. i get some pushback but i think my points get heard. :)

        It’s cute that you still talk about me there.

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          oh yikes no i didn’t say frequently i said consistently. maybe 2 times. but both times i did!

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            oh yikes no i didn’t say frequently i said consistently. maybe 2 times. but both times i did!

            Typical of your level of literacy. I didn’t say frequently.

            It’s cute that you still talk about me there.

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              just making sure you didn’t get the wrong idea! frankly we dgaf about you

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                Man, Pug hates you a lot. You’re done nothing but defend Pug and he hates you.

                Meanwhile he has a reason to actually dislike me and he keeps egging me on like a debate bro.

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                  Man, Pug hates you a lot. You’re done nothing but defend Pug and he hates you.

                  Meanwhile he has a reason to actually dislike me and he keeps egging me on like a debate bro.

                  I didn’t realize your view of relations was so transactional. I’ll keep that in mind for the future.

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                frankly we dgaf about you

                Thanks for the special post for me in 196 though, I just saw it.

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                  Oh my God do you like to log out and check how others are talking about you? God you are hungry for ways to say you’re the victim of everything going on.

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                    Nah, I actually saw it through you, since you did like a dozen replies to me and I wasn’t sure I replied to them all when I hit ‘mark as read’. Thanks for being such a sweetie and thinking of me, though.

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                just making sure you didn’t get the wrong idea!

                Yes, that’s definitely how it comes off as, certainly not you attempting to correct a mistake that wasn’t there.

                frankly we dgaf about you

                Good. Feel free to continue to not talk about me.