• brbposting@sh.itjust.works
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    9 months ago

    I appreciate your progressive attitudes, though I wonder whether you considered how your comment may be received by married Lemmings who’ve already made a different decision than you. Could they perceive an unjustified attack you didn’t intend?

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        9 months ago

        I don’t think I’m responsible for other adults’ reactions to my life choices or my lived experiences. my suggesting that they or their spouses changing their surnames upon marriage implies some sort of ownership.

        Hrrm, maybe have a think about it.

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        9 months ago

        You are correct!

        You are not directly responsible for everyone’s reactions.

        That said, an awareness of how our words and experiences may resonate with differing perspectives shows consideration and helps create a more inclusive space.

        What do you think about helping us create the kind of platform we all want to be on?

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              9 months ago

              Rarely see it spelled out that clearly, I think that’s a huge issue with modern “progressivism”.

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                9 months ago

                Progressivism has no inherent need to be all-encompassing. In fact, keeping certain groups *cough conservatives cough* not included is an essential part of successful progressivism.

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            9 months ago

            So implying that name by marriage still implies ownership, excludes me, a man that wants to fly the banner of his wife’s clan.

            You aren’t supporting your “different priorities” very well.