I usually use a timer, but there are periods of time when I don’t want the jarringness of a sound to end it. Then I’ll use a mala, moving one bead for each breath. You can use it with your timer a few times, and get an approximate idea of how many cycles your standard meditation length is. If you use two of the short bracelet style or a Jodo Shu style juzu, then each time around the first string is one bead on the second string. You can set your time by where you hold the second string at the start of your session - hold it so that you will count the correct number of beads before reaching the guru bead.

For really long sessions or when counting short mantras, use the hanging beads to count times round the second string.

The real answer here is “time”. You’re grieving a loss, and it takes time for your mind to process that. It mostly isn’t a voluntary process, so the question isn’t only “how do I stop spiraling,” but also “how do I get myself through the time it takes to recover.” A few suggestions:

1. Sleep. As much as you can until you enjoy your time awake again. Time you spend asleep is time spent letting your subconscious sort out a changed situation. It’s time spent healing.

2. Fast. Fasting releases endorphins starting about day 3. A healthy adult can safely keep up a clear liquids fast for up to 30 days without medical supervision. Don’t do this with just water - clear liquids (see-through juices and broths) will keep up your hydration and important nutrients. The hunger basically goes away after day 3. The endorphins help make the time bearable, and help show joy is still possible.

3. Meditate. This will be a hard one, because for best results I’m not going to suggest guided meditation, but rather a mindfulness meditation practice. You can do this on your own, but a meditation group can help you get past some of the misconceptions most Westerners have about meditation (the goal is not to stop thoughts from coming up, realizing you’ve become distracted is success rather than a failure, etc.) If you’re in college, there’s very likely a group on campus that holds sessions at least weekly. If not, look for a Buddhist temple or Shambhala center in your area. Hindu Dhyana and Vipassana are similar. The group will probably meet weekly, but ideally you would make this a daily practice on your own.

4. Distract. Whatever takes your attention off the pain is a good thing, even if it isn’t as enjoyable right now as it normally is. Reading, TV, video games, volunteer work, hobbies, learning a new skill. As long as it keeps your attention on something other than the grief.

5. Therapy. Again, if your in college, there may be short-term counseling available at no cost. In addition to a non-judgemental space to process out loud, many short-term therapy modalities offer tools for handling grief, sadness, and interrupting thought loops.

And private sector work. Oh yeah, NGO work too.

No “just” about it. Dog is a treasure not to be deprecated.

And the Etruscan gods. And the Carthaginian gods. And the Egyptian gods. And the … you get the idea.

Yeah, but even in Snowcrash Hiro was still an actual employee.

Please add a nsfw tag or other warning to this.

Kid, we found your name on an envelope under a half a ton of garbage.

Price is a factor, but so is brand recognition. Daiya is a great example that’s carried everywhere because it’s been around so long but is awful.

If you can find Miyoko’s, that was started by the chef that popularized actual cultured (meaning produced by a bacterial process like animal milk based cheeses) vegan cheese, and is an entirely different experience.

Paywall bypass for the article’s link on the hackers that exfiltrated message contents: https://archive.is/8kaQQ

No.

It isn’t a defense at all. You said you didn’t understand. Abused people (or peoples) becoming abusive in turn is a common process, and that phrase is commonly used in such a way that searching on it will reveal many studies of the process, and what has been tried (successfully and unsuccessfully) to short-circuit it.

Understanding is not absolution, though. You can both see how the genocide of Jews led to fears, politics, and colonial interventions that contributed to Israel’s genocide of Palestinians, and also condemn that genocide and those perpetrating it (which I absolutely do). But not understanding the motivations makes any problem easier to effectively resist or solve, as you can use that knowledge to determine where and how to apply pressure and create a lasting rather than a temporary change.

Hurt people hurt people.

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The worst part is they may weasel out of it. If the claim was “it detects 98% of AI generated samples” it could do that while having a high false positive rate. I hate this timelime.

Power off to get the full security benefits of disk encryption.

It’s where you pay someone to give you money if you burn your inn down.

They could have imposed up to €55 billion across the two companies. That doubles for repeat offenders. This was clearly meant as a warning.

That still doesn’t follow. For every mole of particles dissolved in a liter of water, the boiling point of water increases by about 0.5°C.

Can’t pardon civil contempt. The judge declared probable cause for criminal contempt, and crimes can be pardoned